Thread: Motherhood and lack of sex drive

Havent been on here a while.
I have an 18 month old and its just plain hard to be in the mood ever. There are some days I honestly couldnt care less if ever had it again. It makes me feel bad for my DH. I suppose some of the time its because Im picky. DH doesnt mind making out right after eating. I find it gross, hve to brush teeth, then wait a while for the toothpaste taste to be gone. He has had a very bad boute of rancid breath when he gets up. I have told him before that I never mean to make him feel bad, but that Im just trying to inform him that his breath literally smells like poop when he wakes up. So issues with him is part of it, then our schedule I know has a big impact on our sex life. He works/has worked night shift for past 4 yrs so he gets up at 2:30 or so, leaves for work at 4pm. So with a toddler there is pretty much no time to do anything, even if I was in the mood. Her naps typically dont line up with when he is awake, but I dont really want them too because she needs to spend time with daddy too.
Things are going to change in that area as he FINALLY gets to go to day shift. THANK GOODNESS. I HATED IT this whole time. But then there is just general tiredness (from being a mommy that I love being) plus my many health issues that I dont feel like typing all out. Energy is non existant at least few days of a week.
Im a SAHM mommy but maybe DH work schedule will change a lot of things.
When we have sex, its completely electric and on a scale of 1 to 10 orgasms are usually a 12. So def. not complaining about that. This may be more of a vent than looking for suggestions but whatever you want to say is great.
Thanks!!

Hi
There are high level of people posting on this site where one partner is on shift or travelling away. I think that this causes a type of separation that puts a stress on relationships. This semi-separation puts stress on relationship bonds that lead to people feel like they are not being nurtured and therefore it is not a good time for reproduction. Try setting aside time for cuddles , massage and sex.
Also having had a child means you will have lost Omega 3 fats as the foetus/baby would have taken these for its brain development particularly if you breast fed. You could benefit form daily fish oil ( Omega 3)tablets as they have also been linked to lack of sex drive.