Thread: I faked (I'm a guy) should I feel bad?

I think it depends on how and why. If there is a problem with sex in the relationship, faking it, by either partner, is a really bad idea. Orgasming during sex is a powerful level of communication and says that this works.

Its funny that various surveys have found that most women do or have at some time, faked it. Virtually all men, however, will swear that a woman has never done so with them. Even when told that virtually all women admit to having faked it at least once, men will still insist - not with them. (I've put this to several men, including the one I'm currently seeing and confirmed this result LOL). This would seem to support the idea that for most men it is important, if only for their own ego, that the woman orgasms. On the flip side, I think very few women are aware that men can or do fake it. My guess is that this is becoming more common as women and men become more aware of women as fully sexual individuals who not only want their own orgasm but want to pleasure the man in their lives.

I agree with Pretzel that sometimes, even if you aren't really into it at the moment, you should willingly gift your partner. Hardly a sacrifice. If you have a good relationship, if it's balanced, this shouldn't be a problem. I've been there on both sides. Its a rare thing for me to turn down sex in a relationship but there have been times when I haven't cum. That's ok, so long as it isn't a regular thing. If I feel like my head just isn't in it, I may just get him off with a bj (pun intended, this is not the same thing as being with a man who wants nothing but bjs and leaves me repeatedly to my own devices). If a man has taken care of a woman and then just lost steam and appologized and been concerned that she would be upset. She should tell him, it happens, next time is his.