Embarrassing! Im such a probeee

**Manx23** · 02-24-2011 09:14 PM

Okay! Please dont judge me.

There is a guy who is a year younger than me, completing his last year in high school so grade 12, and Im in college. He has been readding me over and over on facebook, wanting sex talk and to be honest with you, thats not the issue, technically its because he's 17. Isnt it ... well...wrong? I mean, 18+ right is alright? o.O

Anyways, He is eye candy, and I mean, the whole nine yards. White porcelain skin, beautiful shaped abs, tall (6ft+) casual dress, dark hair, big hands, perfect grin, sporty, ON and on; but enough of that...Oh did I forget to mention he's European?

ALL girls I know are attracted to him. They go googoo-gaga. I kid you not. Well, he asked me to have sex with him, and I told him I...am...a virgin.

Its true, and I told him I wouldnt want to disappoint him; so he asked for a BJ the next time we see each other. Here's the kicker, I've NEVER even heard his voice before, and only spoke to him through Facebook or Skype, so...yay? I mean, honestly, what type of guy, would want a girl like me, with a muffin top, and who's Anti-social (as some would put it) who also has MAJOR self esteem issues? I mean BIG ONES! Im the girl who sits out on the bench and he's the jock kicking serious butt on the football field. Swear all the girls are like: "OMG" and Im just "...yee in my dreams..." K ladies the Taylor Swift song: "You Belong With Me" you know it, dont deny it! LOL I like him a lot. A lot, alot. I blush insanely whenever I think of him.

Any ideas? What should I do? Should I try it? Should I ignore him? I mean...Im soooooooooooooo lost.

**Texasred** · 02-24-2011 10:08 PM

Don't rush into something with someone you don't know.
First off, you don't know if those really are pictures of him.

**rcoreyus** · 02-24-2011 11:14 PM

Lots of men would want someone like you - but they would want to meet you first, get to know you, etc, before they asked for a BJ.

I'm worried that he is just planning to use you.

I'm also worried that lots of people are not what they seem on the internet - be careful!

**WildChild** · 02-25-2011 12:16 AM

Darling be careful. You don't really know him, you don't know if he is clean, you don't know if this is safe.

**alicat** · 02-25-2011 08:01 AM

wait for somebody who will want you for you, and not for a 10 minute feel good thing.

**KaytiC** · 02-25-2011 08:29 AM

Ok, I am throwing up the red flags for this one. For me personally this is screaming "BACK AWAY NOW!"

This is seriously giving me bad vibes babe, my roommate (and bestest friend in the world) is going through this same thing right now, only with someone saying they are slightly older. He wants to meet up with her, but he bailed as soon as he found out she brought a friend with her to the meeting. He was the same way, never spoke over to her except on FB and a messenger.

I have some serious self esteem issues too, but I don't want anyone to fall into this kind of trap. You are your own person and can do whatever you wish to, however I would strongly caution against meeting with this person. He has already mentioned wanting to have sex with you or receive a BJ from you and he has never met you. I worry that it will be a quick one off thing and then he would disappear. It is a very serious situation that you find yourself in, and should it end badly it will take a while to recover from. Unless you feel 100% that you are ready for sex in any form and will have no regrets you should wait, there are millions of guys, why waste something so special on someone that would not make you feel special?

**Yamimi** · 02-25-2011 02:22 PM

If you've only talked to this guy on facebook, how did you meet him? Did you know him before you went off to college? Usually a guy who wants to eventually meet up with you doesn't really talk about sex right away.

I honestly can't say if it's the right or wrong thing, but like everyone else said, but careful. Meet at a restaurant or public place first. Don't invite him to your house/dorm and don't go to his. Even if "there's gonna be friends over" C'mon..you're in college. I trust you can be smart about this. Still wanna see him? By all means, go ahead. Like stated before, just be careful & ALWAYS meet at a public place first. If he offered to pick you up, don't take it. You'll meet him there. And don't go with him afterwards. Just go home

**nick1** · 02-26-2011 12:02 PM

BE CARE FULL!!!!! I am a guy who likes muffin tops. I like chubby. but that is just me. Make sure you are not going to be just another notch in his belt.