Thread: can ya help me spice things up???

Well as for the tongue thing he doesn't need to put his tongue in your vagina, that's not gonna do a thing for you other than drool some wetness in your haha. He needs to focus on the clitoris. Sucking, licking, nibbling, that's the money spot there. That's what will make you cum. I am not big personally on receiving oral sex. I have never had an oral sex orgasm without the assistance of a toy. I think my bf is amazing at it but he would need to spend a long time down there to make it happen. Some women are more sensitive (lucky) but for me so far I have to have consistent vibration or rubbing. Kinda is a mental game with it too...

Alas I got off topic. Anyways he can always use his fingers and/or a toy in your vagina as he pleasures your clit..gotta make it rounded right? Or he can put something in your sphincter too whatever floats your boat. Keep in mind cleanliness as to avoid those urinary infections! Those suck!

I think it will be much easier for him to lick your clit than trying to bury his face in your crotch and smother himself by trying to stick his tongue in there...Watch some porn together if he needs ideas or "instructions"..if he has never really done it's nothing to be ashamed of..a new skill to work on

Well, I suppose you could role-play him as a slave who needs to be trained in how to please you with his tongue. Tie him to the bed and find proper ways to punish and reward him for a bad or good job. You get to both role-play and have an excuse to show him what you really like.

Obviously this only works if he sometimes likes submissive play.

What ideas do you feel you will try? I personally dont think adding an extra person is a good idea, I have a friend who tried a 3some and now he is divorced. Im not saying the 3some is the reason why he is divorced just that it is a "slippery slope" and often ends in ruin. What starts as a good idea can very quickly turn into a nightmare, someone will feel jealous and left out and 3 can become 2 but not the way you would expect!
Masturbation is a good idea, my wife has said she wants me to come home "unexpectedly" and catch her at it and watch her getting herself off.
Let us know what works for you.

Yeah we wont be doing the 3some thing. Not something we believe in and I agree it most likely would end badly for everyone. We are happy with just us two.
Even though we have done it before, I like the role playing idea, as we tend to stick to one idea. I also thought maybe we could get a book and expiriment. I really get off on the idea of being forced (not extremely rough, and by my hubby of course haha). But maybe I will try the dominatrix thing sometime.
Thanks again!!!

If you are looking for role-play scenarios where he is dominant (if that is what you both like), then maybe people can provide suggestions:

Just one to get started and maybe there will be more suggestions:

Inquisition: you are a suspected witch and the trial is that you are tied down and the inquisitor tries to force you to orgasm in some set time. If you orgasm, you were clearly an evil woman, and will be given to the monks to be used as a sexual play-thing. (He wears a bathrobe with a hood - instant inquisitor).

Hmmm. Thanks for the scenario, but I think I like to stay more towards reality when role playing. The one we end up doing more of is the bar scene. Meeting at a bar, a little tipsy, then going home with eachother. So I guess really a stranger thing too. lol

Quite literally, there are so many other surfaces in your home, like counters, tables, chairs, couch/sofa, hood of the car just after he's pulled in from work (very warm with a blanket thrown over it). Imagine the look on his face when he pulls up the driveway, raises the garage door and sees you standing there naked waiting for him. What about all of the flavors and textures of food items in your home? Everything from dips and sauces to different fruits, candies, etc.

You can do a lot with ice cubes....in your mouth, in your hand, in his mouth or in his hand.

It doesn't require toys per se, or some huge financial outlay, just you thinking outside the box.

As for his tongue "issues"....There is a great book for all men who want to improve their oral skills "She Comes First", or to improve skills in general.

I've read mine so much, I think the pages are dog eared.