can ya help me spice things up???

**GlossyT** · 02-25-2011 05:00 PM

I know I said in a previous post that me and DH's sex life is kind of minimal and I have a lack of motivation to even do it. But I really feel like that is going to change a lot once he is on day shift. My question is, what are some ways we can change it up? We always end up with me on top because that seems to be the best/easiest way for me to orgasm. I did once on the stairs but our DD's room is pretty close so I wouldnt want to very often for fear of waking her. Gotta love a sleeping baby, and I tend to be a screamer. I can almost feel my sex drive increasing just in anticipation of having hubby around more. Im excited.
I kinda like to get kinky but not too far off the deep end, we like to role play. I got a one time use ring that vibrated from durex and didnt really like it. I liked just him. So if anyone has ideas that would be great. Oh and i would really like him to go down on me but he doesnt have a long enough tongue, seriously. And he is more of a boob man than a guy so if there are techniques that could help him, that would be appreciated.

**GlossyT** · 02-25-2011 05:01 PM

Oops, i forgot I needed to use my sensor, lol. more of a boob man that a Pu*** guy.

**LanaBear** · 02-25-2011 05:13 PM

Take turns and tie each other up to the bed. Blindfolds. I love sensory deprivation, eliminating one makes all the others much more heightened.

Lap dances, strip teases. Tie him to a chair and shake your booty (or boobs, lol) in front of him. (there is a thread somewhere with strip tease song suggestions)

One thing that I've bought and have LOVED are a couple of different Liberator shapes. It makes things interesting. Helps support you in quite a few different and fun positions.

Put a pillow under your butt when he's going down on you. It helps with the "access".

**Jimbeau** · 02-26-2011 07:12 AM

Originally Posted by GlossyT

and i would really like him to go down on me but he doesnt have a long enough tongue, seriously.

Sounds like he has other issues with that and the tongue thing is just an excuse. He could probably make you cum with his nose if he really wanted to. Perhaps suggest that as an alternative.

**young aussie male** · 02-26-2011 12:38 PM

Have you tried out doors? If theres a slight chance you may get caught, the sex is so much better. If you have an open and trusting relationship, maybe invite someone in to join you. My last suggestion drove mt ex wild... Anal, while penetrating the vagine with a vibrator. She said it made her orgasms alot sronger and tended to make sex better for the two of us

**BettyCrocker** · 02-26-2011 01:27 PM

There's so many different positions, fantasies, toys, and games..hard to say what floats your boat. Watching porn together can help out for ideas. I know some porn is terribly cheesy..or nasty..but honestly it makes you think! You and your BF taking turns picking out a lil movie or short porn online can give you an open door as to "do you want to try that"...that's what happened to me..tequila, jacuzzi, porn, I got really horny and asked him if he wanted to do "that"......never ever thought I would say that! Not bad though

**steanna7** · 02-27-2011 12:04 AM

I started selling sextoys around valentines day and made couples baskets full of vibrators, and edible penis rings and booby tassles, handcuffs, blindfolds ect.. and everyone at work can't thank me enough they have all started doing it again

**rcoreyus** · 02-27-2011 12:28 AM

Can you give more of an idea of what sort of things you like? There are so many possible directions to go, its tough to give specific advice.

**Hopeless Dork** · 02-27-2011 08:19 AM

I really don't understand the bit about his tongue not being long enough... if he can lick a stamp, he should have no trouble being able to lick your clit... he does understand that he can put his finger inside of you and use his tongue against your clitoris doesnt he? Oral sex doesn't require a long tongue, in fact... him just using his lips against you would probably be a nice treat... but unless he seriously can't extend even the tip of a tongue outside of his mouth... I don't see why him going down on you is out of the question.

I think spicing things up is more than just adding gadgets... Its about stepping out of your comfort zone.. inniciating in different ways, in different places, different times... like for example if you usually have sex at bed time, shake it up and surprise him when he gets home from work... or wake him up in an exciting way in the morning.

Talking dirty can definitely add some spice, trying out costumes instead of just lingerie, alternative 'happy endings' to whatever normal ways you guys usually finish, sending naughty messages/emails, taking sexy pictures/making sexy movies, coming on seductive and vixenish one night taking the lead on all aspects... and the next playing coy and demure and letting him control the action. Watching each other masturbate, like lana mentions lap dances... or just posing your body on the floor in front of him in different sexy ways, etc. Petting on him when he least expects it... like under the table at a restaurant -- just have fun. Its hard to say what can add spice specifically as that depends on what either of you would find exciting... so share your fantasies with him, ask him his... talk openly about your sex life... what he perhaps wants to feel/see/do to you more often... or for the first time and disclose the same.

**GlossyT** · 02-27-2011 10:33 PM

Thanks all, you've def. given me stuff to think about. Regardng the tongue. Its something we havent even spoken of since the first year we were married. It'll be 6 in April. Tried a few times, each time he said he couldnt get in there. An I made sure I was all trimmed up an everything. Maybe he thought he had to put his tongue "inside." And Jimbeau, you might have something there. Like I said he's more of a boob man than a pu*** guy, so maybe its my wetness or the look of a vagina. Im going to bring it up again at some point and see what he says.
We'll see
Thanks again!!