Thread: masturbated and now im soo scared

Sweetie the hymen is just a bit of skin and the only meaning it has is what you assign to it. I don't think putting something into your vagina makes you a non virgin, do you use tampons? Why would that be any different?

The word virgin originally meant an independant woman. I'm over 50, have had two kids and few dozen men or more and under that old definition could be called a virgin. I'm in no hurry to lose that. Actually I've given it up a few times and don't advise it. LOL

If you are aroused and lubricated, sex should not be painful. Sometimes the first time is but in many cases I think that is because we've had so many hangups fed to us that we are just too tense to open up to it. You go right on ahead and explore. Find what works for you and pleasures you, that will help you have a much better sex life when you are ready to have a partner.

No this does not mean that you need to start visiting the OB/GYN. You probably should in the next couple years to just as part of a well woman check and certainly if you decide to become sexually active with a partner you need to get educated about your sexual health and what conception control would be best for your situation.