Thread: I don't know what to do on top.

I want to be good on top, but I don't really know what to do.
If I'm on my knees, do I just go up and down using my quad muscles? How fast should I go? What sort of motion should I use?

I'm also really nervous about him watching me. I feel like such an idiot but I have no experience being on top.

I would just experiment with different movements and try to find something that feels good to you. He should get into it if he can see that you're enjoying yourself. This should also help you to relax.

Maybe get a video you can watch in private, it would give you some ideas. Honestly I think he will be happy as long as you are happy. Just go with it and have fun and learn together. It's gets better the more you do it. So giddy up.

A man's opinions....

Woman on top a/k/a Cowboy is one of the best positions in the history of human kind. It puts the woman in total control of everything. Angle, frictions, depth of penetration, movement, speed, etc.

If you've never done it, that's the beauty of it, you don't know what to expect and you get to try different things until you get to the point where you both are crazy about it. Practice makes perfect...so practice a lot!

As for him watching you? IT"S HIS DREAM COME TRUE !! For the first time ever, he gets to see all of your upper body during the act of intimacy. You are naked, on top of him and you are in control...he LOVES you...it doesn't get any better than that. And once you get good at Cowboy, then you can turn around and do Reverse Cowboy (where all he sees is your butt and back, as you face away from him).

I LOVE Cowboy...can you tell? And so does my SO. As a first timer, the two suggestions I will make are; 1) Lean forward a little bit with your hands on his chest or the front of his shoulders. If you're straight up and down, the penetration may be a little deeper than you had thought possible, and 2) HAVE FUN learning something new together.

Take a deep breath, relax, focus on having fun, not if "you're doing it right" and ride 'em Cowboy! Yee Haw !!