Thread: Help! Orgasm! Please

Ok, so, my ex boyfriend told me that women glow or something after an orgasm, and he told me that that didn't happened with me and that I never had an orgasm, no matter what he did to me. It basically destroyed our relationship.

Here's the whole story, I never had an orgasm before and I don't know why but I just don't feel like everybody said it should feel, you know the all mind blowing thing.So, after some time during foreplay, I start shaking, like a lot, my whole body is shaking so much that I once moved the bed, and it feels soooo good, I start to breathe hard and sweat like crazy, I just want to scream, and after some time of that, I want him to stop touching me, because I don't like it anymore. It never happened to me before with anyone else.
I talked to my friends who had orgasms and they told me that that was it. But my boyfriend told me that he KNOWS it wasn't an orgasm because I didn't glow or something after it, and that is what happens to girls after orgasm, they glow.

So, am I suppose to glow, does that happen to all women?
Please, if you can help me I would be really thankful, but please don't laugh, this is something that is really important to me

Thank you

I always believed that the post coital "glow" was was a metaphore for the aftermath of pleasure rather than an actual luminescence of skin... Sweat makes you look shiney which could be considered a glow I suppose, but you sweat after any excercise so...

As for the orgasm you described; I've had that feeling before, it's like you reach the pinnicle of climax but cant quite go over... and after a while you get frustrated/dissapointed/tired and just want it to stop.

If you focus on the fact that you don't think you've had an orgasm yet you may make yourself too tense when you do try to actually have one. Relax. Have you tried pleasuring yourself? Use whatever you need/want to help you... Learn what your body likes so well that you can teach your next bf how to make you 'glow' like you want to

Hope this helps x

Your boyfriend's already assuming something's SUPPOSE to happen when it's just not the case. He should get over himself first of all. Second of all, try masturbating or ask him to try something different to see if you can reach an orgasm. Don't try too hard at it though.

I'll be honest, I, for one, have never "glowed" and have no idea why people think it's important..

I'm glad to hear that he is your EX because he is an idiot (IMO).

The thought that "all" women "glow" after orgasm and that he can tell if they do or not is rediculous!!

I agree with Caregirl in that it's a metaphore for the aftermath of pleasure (well said Caregirl) and nothing more. Though I also agree that women do often have a glow about them when they have just started to perspire and before they break out in a full blown sweat. Maybe I'm nuts for thinking so, I am a man afterall, but women do have a "glow" about them at certain times; one visual and one metaphorical.