Thread: Men vs Women ...

I'm a 22 year old female, in an amazing relationship with a wonderful man for almost 2 years now. We have a very healthy sex life, we talk about everything he knows that women turn me on but I prefer sex with a man.
Sometimes I wonder if any other women think the way I do, could possibly have sex with a women but never be able to date one.
Just bisexual or bicurious?

Help me out here, sometimes I feel so abnormal.

Hi there, and welcome!

Nope, you are certainly not abnormal, and there is nothing wrong with being attracted to both sexes or just being curious. I admit, I am a rather bi-curious woman myself. I would do stuff with another woman just for the experience and satisfy my curiosity, and I find the female form to be a beautiful thing. But, I don't think I could ever be attracted to or feel the same way about a woman as I would a man, nor could I ever see myself in a relationship with a woman. Therefore, I consider myself to be open-mindedly straight, and there's nothing wrong with it. It's only a problem if I make it a problem, and I could care less what anyone thinks about it.

It's only really an issue if your curiosity/ urges interfere with your relationship. Otherwise, don't worry about it, you are normal.

You don't have to catagorize yourself or worry which box you fit into... you are just you, a uniquely sexual being... as we all are. As long as you are honest with yourself, treat your partner with respect in regards to keeping commitments you agree to... I think you don't have to adhere to any pre-set, society-defined standards.

I agree with the ladies....You are who you are...and all of us are curious at times. It only becomes a problem if it interferes with your daily life.

Originally Posted by kristalyn04

...and I find the female form to be a beautiful thing.

You certainly won't get an argument from me on that point! :-)
I sometimes wonder, "How could you NOT find women attractive?"
I'm sure that Mono is not alone in that regard.

I wont lie, Ive seen women before and thought they were so beautiful/sexy/gorgeous or whatever you wanna define as attractive... and Ive always kind of wanted to experiment, I just havent yet.

This is so good to know, thanks everybody!

For a while there I thought I was leading my spouse on because I was actually gay but didn't know it, the thing that always stumped me is I could never see myself dating a women, just sleeping with one. Also I LOVE the man with all my heart that I'm with. This helps clear up some things though definitely! Thanks again.

We're all different. Oprah says she's not even a little bit lesbian :-)

My husband and I are monogamous to each other, but he knows that I'm just about as perfectly bisexual as a person can be. That does not mean that I have to have sex with anyone but my husband. It just means that I an aroused by and attracted to both. It's just the way I am. Fortunately, I did have the opportunity to have sexual experiences with women before I married my husband so there's no nagging curiosity I feel like I just have to fulfill. I'm glad for that. It is not worth risking my relationship with my husband to go after urges for other people, male or female, and I don't consider finding another woman attractive any different than finding another man attractive. Both are off limits because we are committed to each other.

I even enjoy (more that I should admit) male gay porn quite a lot. My husband is quite turned off by it, but he's intrigued that I like it. Now, I'll be the first to admit I'm not middle of the road average. But we are all different. What is important is the relationship with our life partner. That comes above all else.