Thread: Husbands bisexual fantasies.

Ok, I'm new here, but I hope I can help. I am kind of bisexual? I say that with a question mark because I only realized it AFTER beginning to date my boyfriend who I have been with for seven years. Ok It's hard to explain, but these are impulses that I probably would not be satisfied with. I guess you could say that if I was single, I would have sex with a woman, but I would prefer a long term relationship with a man. So your husband may only be thinking in those terms. He may find that men can turn him on, but that her prefers women, namely you. Yes it does suck that you found out only now. He definitely should have been more upfront. I also think that you should calmly tell him your concerns because I truly think honesty is best.

I don't agree that porn made him this way though. I have never watched any porn in my short 21 years and I am bisexual. My boyfriend however has watched tons, even from a pretty young age. He is completely straight. I think it's just how you are. It's just hard to identify and come to terms with something like that. Also, masturbating to men doesn't necessarily mean he is bisexual. You can masturbate to a lot of things and it doesn't necessarily mean you would do them.

Something he may want sexually has nothing to do with how much he loves you. If his attraction to men is purely sexual and not also emotional, then you have a man who loves you which is all you can ask for. So he has a liking for a particular fantasy, is it any worse than fantasisiing about two women, or some celebrity?

Have you thought about introducing a strap-on into your sex toys? Yes, he may well fantasise it's a guy, but we all would be liars if we said we never fantasised about someone else when we're with our partner. In a good r/ship with open communiction it can be a huge asset to talk about fantasies together, fantasise together and let your partner know you don't judge him, but are letting him be himself.

This fantasy is not a threat to your relationship, but having an unsupportive judgemental attitude is. Forcing him to feel guilty about his fantasy and hide it will only make you resentful so try and be supportive rather than defensive.