Do you think most men are looking for No Strings Attached Sex?

**liminal** · 03-15-2011 08:47 PM

Many men masturbate daily or even more than once daily. I would think that would translate into a desire for plain old Non Strings Attached Sex.

Yet it also seems like a lot of people are offended by the idea of a man "objectifying" a woman.

Frankly it seems like if men typically want to have No Strings Attached Sex and that's objectifying then that means that men naturally want to objectify women. But that doesn't make sense to say does it?

So do you think that it's true that most men want No Strings Attached Sex?

**waya** · 03-15-2011 09:45 PM

I think most men want that for a while. Then, they get to a point where it's not enough and they want more of an emotional connection.

**liminal** · 03-15-2011 09:48 PM

So you agree that it's the norm. Does it offend you when a guy tries to initiate that kind of relationship?

If it's the norm shouldn't there be an appropriate way of finding that? What is that way?

**Hopeless Dork** · 03-15-2011 10:33 PM

I don't think most men want no strings attached sex... I think most men would be happy to land ONE woman, that they are physically attracted to, that enjoys sleeping with them lol. Not all guys are player players that want to slap on the cologne and hit the night clubs and hunt for numbers to add to their booty call list... I think men and women both go through phases of wanting to experiment with dating around... and thats normal.

But men are not vapid sex machines, they have brains and hearts and feelings too... they want to be loved and cared for, just like women do. I honestly think when a man wants no-strings sex with a woman, its because he either knows he is not going to develop any feelings for her (doesn't see her as a 'keeper') or doesn't want to develop feelings for her (she's married or he's married... or there is some other reason he knows they wouldn't work out for anything other than sexxing).

There are both men and women that do not want to be intimate with someone, do not want to have feelings for someone... but still want to enjoy physical pleasure of sex... and when both parties feel the SAME EXACT way... (which is rare, usually one or the other... is secrety hoping it will turn into more while the other is 100 percent certain they don't want that which usually leads to an end to things in short order) but when both parties want to just get down and nothing else, then yes no strings sex can work, and wouldn't be objectifying to anyone as long as its what both parties TRULY want.

And I honestly cannot see where you make the jump from a desire to orgasm being equal to a desire for no-strings sex... you make the conclusion that if someone wants to get off every day, they must be objectifying women and want no strings sex... and I just don't understand how you tie that together like that.

Men that want sex every day usually won't get it that way by having no-strings sex... it would be much easier to land daily sex by finding a long-term partner with a compatible drive than it would be to do hit and miss at the bars.

**PinkySweet** · 03-15-2011 10:40 PM

i think their are men out there that want no strings attached sex, but theirs also many men that want more than that.

and i dont see masturbation as wanting no strings attached sex. everyone masturbates, so wouldnt that make everyone wanting no strings attach sex? my boyfriend masturbates, and were in a fully commited relationship.

**WildChild** · 03-15-2011 10:42 PM

A lot of women masterbate one or more times a day too. That doesn't necessarily translate into wanting NSA sex. Certainly there are women who want exactly that, bunches of them on craigslist. Its one thing to just get sexual release, its a whole other level with an emotional connection.

**PinkySweet** · 03-15-2011 10:48 PM

Originally Posted by WildChild

A lot of women masterbate one or more times a day too. That doesn't necessarily translate into wanting NSA sex. Certainly there are women who want exactly that, bunches of them on craigslist. Its one thing to just get sexual release, its a whole other level with an emotional connection.

this sounds crazy but i actually met my bf/fiance from craigslist, of course i wasnt looking in the erotic encounters... my confession lol

**liminal** · 03-15-2011 10:49 PM

So how do you get the other pereon to know what you want? I means let's imagine I'm with somebody and I am interested in that kind of relationship. Suppose I don't initiate that kind of relationship out of fear that if I just be myself then I will lose that persons respect. Well then I find out that later somebody else initiates that very same kind of relationship and then I feel like a clueless dude that didn't know how to take a chance when he had it.

So how do these things happen? I need some clarity so I won't feel confused or miss out on ALL life has to offer.

Originally Posted by Hopeless Dork

But men are not vapid sex machines, they have brains and hearts and feelings too... they want to be loved and cared for, just like women do. I honestly think when a man wants no-strings sex with a woman, its because he either knows he is not going to develop any feelings for her (doesn't see her as a 'keeper') or doesn't want to develop feelings for her (she's married or he's married... or there is some other reason he knows they wouldn't work out for anything other than sexxing).

There are both men and women that do not want to be intimate with someone, do not want to have feelings for someone... but still want to enjoy physical pleasure of sex... and when both parties feel the SAME EXACT way... (which is rare, usually one or the other... is secrety hoping it will turn into more while the other is 100 percent certain they don't want that which usually leads to an end to things in short order) but when both parties want to just get down and nothing else, then yes no strings sex can work, and wouldn't be objectifying to anyone as long as its what both parties TRULY want.

And I honestly cannot see where you make the jump from a desire to orgasm being equal to a desire for no-strings sex... you make the conclusion that if someone wants to get off every day, they must be objectifying women and want no strings sex... and I just don't understand how you tie that together like that.

Men that want sex every day usually won't get it that way by having no-strings sex... it would be much easier to land daily sex by finding a long-term partner with a compatible drive than it would be to do hit and miss at the bars.

**PinkySweet** · 03-15-2011 10:53 PM

sometimes you have to take chances and risk making a fool of yourself, its as simple as that. be straight forward and tell that person what you want.

**WildChild** · 03-15-2011 10:54 PM

Got the feeling you are just dying to get laid? Got any female freinds? They may be able to help you out, there are some women who get a kick out of breaking in a virgin.