how painful is anal? - Page 2

CUBANGIRL · 07-11-2007, 05:16 PM

I'm not going to lie to you. I is a little painful the first few times .You just need to relax. I have been married to my husband for 9 years.After all this time i finally let him.I was scared of the pain.But once I got into it (I LOVED IT) I don't do it always . It's very intense. Well good luck!

**Irelandlover** · 07-13-2007, 03:49 PM

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Originally Posted by karale

It is painful at first, after a minute you relax and it does not hurt. It would be better for you to be on top that way you are in control of the pressure and speed. Use plenty of lube and go slow at first it won't be to bad.

My husband and I have anal about once a month, that is enough for me! I get no pleasure out of it but he gets so much pleasure that I don't mind once in a while. He does things for me he doesn't enjoy and marriage is a compromise so give it another try. If you still hate it or it is to painful have a limit like once a month to keep him happy.

You are right marriage is a compromise, but if you love and care for your partner why would you want them to do something that they hate or is painful!! If you hate the idea or if it is painful don't do it. You don't have to do anything you are uncomfortable with.

teegz · 08-20-2007, 06:03 AM

Hi,
I was like you and never ever wanted anything to do with it. You have to be really relaxd, eg let him go down on you and just start with the finger while hes eating you, just make sure u have lube just be careful which one you use cause alot ive noticed cause stinging. If he can get u in the right spot wwwwwwwwwwwwwwooooooooooowwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!
You just have orgasm after orgasim and so on until you cant take it anymore. I absolutly luv it and its the best feeling it ever experienced. U cant do it all the time. Also experience with a few anal toys. I also found dont think about it and youl enjoy it more. My new partner of 2 years introduced to me and i wouldnt have it any other way. When you feel really comfortable with it ul have just anal instead of just the usual. I hope that was useful to you i was in the same boat as you remember JUST RELAX AND ULL B FINE

**soldatka** · 08-20-2007, 12:09 PM

Personally I don't like it which is why we don't do it - just couldn't get past the pain bit. A lot depends on how both you and your man are put together.

If it's really bad for you don't feel obliged to do it, even if it pleases your man - there are so many ways to get your jollies!

openminded · 09-05-2007, 05:35 PM

anal hurts a lot at first... if you go slow though, and dont let a little pain make you never want to do it again, then eventually you see how great it feels... for me, it was worth the pain and work. however, a great thing to try is when you get to the point where he can enter you and you have done it a few times, then use a dildo in you vagina... it feels amazing...

ladyinred9 · 09-05-2007, 10:49 PM

Ouch! It does hurt...I usually just go to my happy place then fake an orgasm so he gets off faster!!!

GoodGuy · 09-06-2007, 11:40 AM

I have to tell you that this is among the best reactions to the subject that I've ever seen. This kind of positive spin on this subject would have been much less likely 10 years ago, when the mood was more of a knee-jerk condemnation.

BE VERY PROUD. The emphasis you all are displaying here is right on the money: if it's important to *him* then it will be a good feeling knowing that you're doing something he likes. Coupled with words to the effect of "perhaps there's a way I can enjoy it", and you have a brilliant winning recipe for relationship solidity.

That's so wonderful! I don't care if it is anal, swallowing, fisting, whatever. That the tone itself is composed of discovery and problem solving and not of threatened visceral reactions is a very very good sign in gender relations.

LOVE_RAYNE · 09-06-2007, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by kristina

Ok. Ladies, here's my dilema. My husband and i have been married for almost 4 yrs. this aug. however he keeps begging me and bothering me to have anal sex with him. We have tried it once or twice but it hurt alot and i pushed him away. I don't even let him penetrate me cuz it hurts to much...some woman say only the first time hurts and than u feel pleasure however others say it always hurts........ joking around i've told my husband that i'll let him have anal sex with me the day that he lets me put a broom stick up his ***.... however i think that joke is getting old and he's really serious about "doing me from behind" im really scared of pain so can anyone give me any adivice?

ANAL IS ONLY PAINFUL IF U DONT RELAX OF COURSE IT HURTS WHEN IT FIRST GOES IN BUT THE PAIN TURNS INTO PLEASURE. I FIND IT ALOT EASIER IF YOU LAY ON YOUR SIDE WITH HIM LAYING BEHIND U OR DO IT STANDING UP . THATS THE ONLY WAY I LET MY BOYFRIEND DO IT , ANY OTHER WAY FOR ME IS JUST UNCOMFORTABLE. OH AND LUBE PLENTY OF LUBE HELPS LOL

GOOD LUCK!

kalte.sterne · 09-13-2007, 09:10 PM

Sorry if I'm digging up an old thread here, but I thought I could offer a lot of help!!

I was in the same boat as you a few months ago. The first time my boyfriend and I tried anal sex, it was extremely painful. We were attempting to do it "doggy style" the first time. I think the same thing that works for me will work for you.

First, have him lick around and inside of your butthole for a while. While he's doing that have him insert a finger a few times. After you feel ready lay him down on his back. Straddle him and ease onto his penis. Then, lower your torso down to his. I've found that this way my clitoris rubs against him and it's absolutely amazing!!
I thought that I wouldn't get any pleasure out of having anal sex but I was totally wrong.

PureRomanceGryl · 11-23-2009, 10:03 AM

Hi ladies! This post actually made me subscribe to this website!

I use to hate anal because it was uncomfortable but now I love it! The previous posters have some great ideas and concerns. Pain is your body's way of telling you that you are hurting yourself but a product like booty eaze isn't meant to numb you till you can't feel anything. That would be counter productive. It is just meant to relax the muscles in the anal cavity which makes penetration more enjoyable. The pain comes from not relaxing prior to penetration.

You should also use a lubricant whether or not you are using a booty eaze or anal eaze because there are no natural lubrications in the anal cavity. The lubricant should be silicon based because a water based lubricant will be absorbed into the anal cavity whereas the silicon will stay on the surface.

I hope this helps.

08-20-2007, 06:03 AM	#13
teegz Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 3	just relax Hi, I was like you and never ever wanted anything to do with it. You have to be really relaxd, eg let him go down on you and just start with the finger while hes eating you, just make sure u have lube just be careful which one you use cause alot ive noticed cause stinging. If he can get u in the right spot wwwwwwwwwwwwwwooooooooooowwwwwwwww!!!!!!!! You just have orgasm after orgasim and so on until you cant take it anymore. I absolutly luv it and its the best feeling it ever experienced. U cant do it all the time. Also experience with a few anal toys. I also found dont think about it and youl enjoy it more. My new partner of 2 years introduced to me and i wouldnt have it any other way. When you feel really comfortable with it ul have just anal instead of just the usual. I hope that was useful to you i was in the same boat as you remember JUST RELAX AND ULL B FINE

09-05-2007, 05:35 PM	#15
openminded Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: California Posts: 1	dont limit yourself anal hurts a lot at first... if you go slow though, and dont let a little pain make you never want to do it again, then eventually you see how great it feels... for me, it was worth the pain and work. however, a great thing to try is when you get to the point where he can enter you and you have done it a few times, then use a dildo in you vagina... it feels amazing...

09-06-2007, 11:40 AM	#17
GoodGuy Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 8	Good for you! I have to tell you that this is among the best reactions to the subject that I've ever seen. This kind of positive spin on this subject would have been much less likely 10 years ago, when the mood was more of a knee-jerk condemnation. BE VERY PROUD. The emphasis you all are displaying here is right on the money: if it's important to him then it will be a good feeling knowing that you're doing something he likes. Coupled with words to the effect of "perhaps there's a way I can enjoy it", and you have a brilliant winning recipe for relationship solidity. That's so wonderful! I don't care if it is anal, swallowing, fisting, whatever. That the tone itself is composed of discovery and problem solving and not of threatened visceral reactions is a very very good sign in gender relations.

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07-11-2007, 05:16 PM	#11
CUBANGIRL Junior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 7	I'm not going to lie to you. I is a little painful the first few times .You just need to relax. I have been married to my husband for 9 years.After all this time i finally let him.I was scared of the pain.But once I got into it (I LOVED IT) I don't do it always . It's very intense. Well good luck!

08-20-2007, 12:09 PM	#14
soldatka VIP Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 73	Personally I don't like it which is why we don't do it - just couldn't get past the pain bit. A lot depends on how both you and your man are put together. If it's really bad for you don't feel obliged to do it, even if it pleases your man - there are so many ways to get your jollies!

09-05-2007, 10:49 PM	#16
ladyinred9 Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 26	Ouch! It does hurt...I usually just go to my happy place then fake an orgasm so he gets off faster!!!

09-13-2007, 09:10 PM	#19
kalte.sterne Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Baltimore, MD Posts: 3	Sorry if I'm digging up an old thread here, but I thought I could offer a lot of help!! I was in the same boat as you a few months ago. The first time my boyfriend and I tried anal sex, it was extremely painful. We were attempting to do it "doggy style" the first time. I think the same thing that works for me will work for you. First, have him lick around and inside of your butthole for a while. While he's doing that have him insert a finger a few times. After you feel ready lay him down on his back. Straddle him and ease onto his penis. Then, lower your torso down to his. I've found that this way my clitoris rubs against him and it's absolutely amazing!! I thought that I wouldn't get any pleasure out of having anal sex but I was totally wrong.

11-23-2009, 10:03 AM	#20
PureRomanceGryl Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Chicago, IL Posts: 1	Hi ladies! This post actually made me subscribe to this website! I use to hate anal because it was uncomfortable but now I love it! The previous posters have some great ideas and concerns. Pain is your body's way of telling you that you are hurting yourself but a product like booty eaze isn't meant to numb you till you can't feel anything. That would be counter productive. It is just meant to relax the muscles in the anal cavity which makes penetration more enjoyable. The pain comes from not relaxing prior to penetration. You should also use a lubricant whether or not you are using a booty eaze or anal eaze because there are no natural lubrications in the anal cavity. The lubricant should be silicon based because a water based lubricant will be absorbed into the anal cavity whereas the silicon will stay on the surface. I hope this helps.