Can you ladies help me out with this? thanks!

**kimberlyjo3591** · 03-17-2011 11:15 PM

My husband was constantly asking me to give him a lap dance or strip for him. and I want to do both of those but my problem is when it comes down to the real deal I can't. I get nervous and change my mind and tell him no. which usually ends up making him upset and now he doesn't ask anymore because he thinks that I just don't want to..which isn't the case. Any idea on how to get over my fear of it? Help!

**AZ Guy** · 03-17-2011 11:30 PM

I'd start by just finding a time when he's sitting on the couch or a chair; and sit in his lap.....start grinding a little; maybe look over your shoulder into his eyes while you're doing that.....

And you're well on your way...

**kimberlyjo3591** · 03-18-2011 12:29 AM

thanks for the advice I may try that when he gets home from work! maybe that will just make it easier

**Seeker_Advice** · 03-18-2011 01:54 PM

Yeah, get over the "fear" that he isn't going to like it or that you're not "good" at it or whatever it is that is holding you back.

The man who loves you wants you to grind on him and/or take off your clothes for him. YOU ARE THE SEXIEST WOMAN ALIVE in his mind !!

Ever taken off your clothes for him before? Do it a little more slowly, with a little bit of 'attitude' and 'tease' in your mind. Don't show him your 'stuff'...make him 'beg' for it mentally...

Ever been on top during intimacy? All a lap dance is, is 'reverse cowboy' with your clothes on!

Hint: When you're down to panties only...step in front of him, bend over with your butt facing him and peel off your panties ever so slowly.
I've never met a man that didn't enjoy that....A LOT !!

YOU ARE SEXY!! GO FOR IT !!

**kimberlyjo3591** · 03-18-2011 05:47 PM

thanks you so much! and I have stripped for him one time and that was when we were newly weds! (and if i can remember right, i had a little bit of liquid courage to help with that) I told him tonight when he came home from work that I had a surprise coming for him this next week or two. and i don't think that that came to his mind. I've been working on practicing in front of my mirror for myself, and so far, i think i look pretty goofy doing it...but we'll see. thanks ladies.

**WildChild** · 03-18-2011 05:59 PM

LOL all the advice you got came from some of our wonderful men.

**Mighty Grasshopper** · 03-18-2011 06:12 PM

it's either that or the fear that he may look elsewhere for a lap dance...

**kimberlyjo3591** · 03-18-2011 06:23 PM

Lol, you know I didn't realize the responses were from men..til just now.

**Seeker_Advice** · 03-19-2011 07:06 AM

"Goofy" can be very "HOT" from the woman he loves....

Keep up the teasing by continuing to drop hints...verbal and visual....until the time arrives.

**cathygirl** · 03-19-2011 07:40 PM

What he wants is to know that you WANT him. He wants to know that HE makes you feel HOT and BOTHERED enough to do the bump and grind with him. Nothing sinister in what he's wanting, just reassurance that you find him sexually attractive. Feed his ego, make him feel like the center of your sexual world and he'll be eating out of your hand :-)

...in a good way, I mean :-)