Thread: Pleasing without reciprocation

I'm kinda the same way. I really like internal stimulation. Cunnilingus is enjoyable, manual stimulation is enjoyable, but there's nothing as satisfying to me as the man I love inside me with a full body press and being able to watch his face (if I can keep my eyes open through the pleasure.) Maybe she's just a g-spot girl like me.

If she's using a vibe on her clit then she masturbates. Just b/c its during penetration doesn't suddenly make it not masturbation.

I've known of someone who wouldn't let her husband give her oral and insisted she orgasm from intercourse only so that's all he ever got. He resents this greatly as not only is it boriing to do the same old thing every time, but it puts great pressure on him to get her there only that one way.

If you're happy to comply with her wishes, and she's happy then there's no problem but the fact that you're here asking about it makes me think it's not totally ok with you and that you'd like more. Unfortunately if she's not willing talk about it or try and think about why she has that attitude then its doubtful things will ever change.

Maybe she doesn't care for it all that much. It's not unheard of.

The OP should be thankful; his wife could be like mine - the exact, diametrical opposite of his...

I mostly just prefer penetration with my husband even though it doesn't give me noteworthy orgasms. Fingers are an ok warmup but I'm going to get sore and he's going to get cramps before it really gets anywhere. I've been masturbating for majority of my life and my own fingers can't get me anywhere near orgasm. Life was very very frustrating before vibrators. Oral is slightly better but it's still not going to get anywhere close to causing an orgasm and I've gotten infections from oral bacteria before so I don't prefer much of it most of the time. I do like him to use toys on me but that's mostly because my sex drive is so much higher that he cannot have sex nearly as many times as I want it. I usually end up slightly sore either from too much friction on my urethra opening (leads to urination problems sometimes) or hitting my cervix and I don't think any amount of explaining anatomy is going to help because he can't feel it so sometimes I don't want that either. When I use toys I don't move them in and out. I wiggle them around until I get the right spot and then I just increase and decrease pressure. That way there is no friction or chance of it sliding in to the wrong spot. I started masturbating young enough though that I had no preconceived notion of what I should do such as moving things in and out. If I had I might have given up because of the discomfort and lack of orgasm that would cause. The best feeling with the least problems is penetration and him finishing and semen hitting my cervix causes good contractions even if it isn't an orgasm. They've found the cervix will dip up and down when exposed to semen. Probably to increase the odds of pregnancy. Some women can really feel that and some can't. Some find surgery that removes the cervix to have a huge impact on pleasure from sex and others don't notice. Everyone is an individual. For some the only good way to get pleasure is actual intercourse.

I have had a hysterectomy and have no cervix and sex is great