Thread: Would you for your SO?

So based on your replies is there anything to try, or anyway your hubby could get you to be more open up to the different ideas of pleasure?

Nope, he cannot make or push for I should say to like some particular sex act or thing just because someone else derives pleasure from it. If I do not like something in particular pleasure wise then it simply will not work. Masturbation for example I think it is incredibly boring I do not get enjoyment from it so I rarely do it, but I will rub myself in front of my bf for the sake of knowing that he likes seeing that. Do I finish...no, so it is not a true mutual masturbation I suppose if orgasm is the goal. I do not care if woman X,Y,Z can cum in 30 seconds from rubbing herself...I am not that woman therefore I do not respond in that same way and I will not share that same enthusiasm for masturbation because I get no pleasure from it. If something simply is not pleasurable then it simply cannot become pleasurable just because it sounds like other people like it. Each person needs to be taken individually.

But I am much more able and willing to at least try something now, if it results in some nice feeling then okay great. Do I drool over anything in particular...no. Thus far nothing has been a switch for me, nothing makes me salivate, nothing makes me go omg omg omg omg do that please do that omg omg I am sooooo uncontrollably horny right now....nothing zip nada. But I will always keep looking and not simply give up. If my bf came to me and said lets try this, I will try it but he does not approach it with an attitude of 'well it worked for them (the source wherever he got it from) so she should like it too'. Approach it as hey lets try it and okay I will try it, but if my bf comes to me with "no you should be in ecstasy right now because other people are" he will hit a brick wall as he cannot make me like anything if it simply does not cause pleasure.

Do not try to force someone to like something just because someone else or yourself may like it. The only way to help someone get more into things is to expect nothing at all. Do not expect a certain ecstasy response just because you may like a certain sex act, do not think that she will like X thing because Y girl liked it, do not go into it thinking that everything will be approached with open wild arms like a edited porn video (some guys think that)....simply go slow. Even rubbing myself in front of my bf took awhile to get to because like I said being watched, sex situations or not, is simply not what I like. I get nervous with eyes on me and it will always be that way it is simply my personality. But the fact that things were not obscenely pushed made me open up on my own. He would say things like "hey would you try that?" or "hey I think I would like that" and it was things like that which made me think about doing them. Not with super duper omg drooling excitement but simply for the sake of doing something new. There needs to be some pushing no doubt, but it cannot be "but you should be liking it" it needs to be "hey lets try this position". It needs to be something like "hey lets go to the sex store for fun, no buying anything just to look around". Even simple things like that can open a person up a bit. You look at an outfit and giggle saying that could be fun, which could then lead to a quick conversation about whether or not she would roleplay. Move onto the lotions and see if the funny names of the lotions would make her want any. Small things, that is about all you can do to open someone up a bit.