Thread: I feel nothing during sex, what's wrong with me?

Ok, so I'm 22 years old and I've been with 3 guys. I had no arousal nor reached orgasm with any of them. It was just uncomfortable for me. Only my vibrator sends me over the top. Ive always been sexual, I still remember in my early teens my boyfriend touch sent shockwaves down my spine, now... nothing. I was Lexapro for a while 1-2 years ago that made orgasm near impossible, even with a vibrator, but after I stopped taking it my drive got a little better.

Another thing is I feel really guilty after sex, and it's hard for me to maintain a relationship with that person after we've had sex.

Why do you feel guilt? That is probably the reason why you're not getting aroused, it's a mental block.

I don't know why I feel guilt. I just feel kind of gross & awkward afterwards, like what we did was a horrible thing.

Well, then there is the issue. You need to change that mindset. Sex is not a dirty and horrible thing, it is a basic and natural human need and desire. It's how we all came to be on this planet, it's how we feel and express physical intimacy, and strengthen our emotional bond with our partner.

Did you perhaps grow up in a conservative and/or religious household that had a strong opinion or moral stance against sex? Is there a societal influence perhaps that has led you to believe that sex is dirty and wrong? Once you recognize whatever that mental barrier is that you have against sex, then you can work towards changing that attitude and I think you'll be surprised how much that will influence your enjoyment of physical intimacy.

That...and taking a break from the use of your vibrator. As no man can even come close to duplicating the feeling. A desensitization can occur when one grows dependent on a vibrator.

In your case, I tend to agree with Kristalyn04, but it wouldn't hurt to hang up the vibe for a while too.