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**spurzzz** · 04-16-2011 05:18 AM

Hi CW,

Many thanks for your kind words, appreciated.

I second oxy's suggestion of calling the I.T experts in, I had just written another response instead of this quite a long one and it deleted so I will keep this short and sweet

I guess I just want to understand what she wants so that I can rest
Surely if she was playing while the man was away she would be with him by now, its been a year and they are not together? If she loved him would she be so nasty to him all the time - as long as i'm there anyway......

Maybe its the drugs factor, i don't know.

So many different things happen in relationships it does make you laugh

MarkT: Let this be the start of a new club right here then!

Sometimes in life we can hit ourselves with our own hands and that is what I am doing with this woman so yes I will and have left her for good. We all live and learn, and they say you get stronger from your mistakes but does the pain hurt along the way!

**GoodGuy** · 04-16-2011 05:22 AM

Originally Posted by GoodGuy

Give it a shot, think it's 100% , and then see suddenly why it's the #1 book suggested by therapists.

TYPO: Not grave though. I meant "Give it a shot, think it's 100% ..." (It's totaly ok in CBT to not believe in it....it works at the low level below psychosomatic effects).

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 04-16-2011 05:51 AM

I never read what got accidently deleated spruzzz, so I honestly can't answer that unless she feels, but sees age and goes inside herself maybe you can add

**spurzzz** · 04-16-2011 06:17 AM

Hi CW,

I shall make a detailed thread on my experience soon so that not only me but everyone can learn from my dear mistakes lol

**MarkT** · 04-16-2011 08:35 AM

It's my belief that my self esteem will come back when my wife is more receptive to me. It will take time for her to trust me again, I'll do whatever it takes and wait as long as it takes. I'm very patient in relationships, like 8-9 months without making love should say something for my patience.

oxymoron, Check this out!!! As she and I laid in bed this morning, I ran my hand over her back across her shoulder and down her arm. I told her how soft her skin felt, God I love to touch her skin. Nothing sexual at all this morning. We were spooning, my crotch well away from her as I had a raging erection, and as I talked to her as I ran my hand down her arm again, she got goosebumps! That hasn't happened in years, yet I'm not pushing or even asking for love making. I'm leaving that up to her in her terms and conditions. I got to page 45 of the book last night, I can't put it down! I've sent a link to all the men I know and I'm getting positive responses back. More to come, I'm sure. I'll be willing to be a case study for the author if need be. I'm in the mood to make my wife as happy as can be. Just whatever it takes- Back later as other obligations dictate my time. Fantastic read!!!

**ItsASecret** · 04-16-2011 09:51 AM

I told her how soft her skin felt, God I love to touch her skin. Nothing sexual at all this morning. We were spooning, my crotch well away from her as I had a raging erection, and as I talked to her as I ran my hand down her arm again, she got goosebumps!

This is because she has not felt that sort of attention in a long time, she too has a component of excitement and she is going to react this way with pretty much anything you do. As long as you do not force things, just as you know you are not going to do, things like this will continue to happen simply because it has not happened in so long.

**MarkT** · 04-16-2011 02:57 PM

Her response to me has been changing, she was using the vacuum and she grabbed My butt, I Love this! I cannot put into words what I'm feeling now. It's a high my mind is on that won't quit, almost making me laugh. This is what I have always wanted my marriage to be like. Cloud 10? Is there such a thing? It's almost like we are dating again, it's great!
That book... it should be on the best sellers list. Every man should own a couple of copies, one for home and one for the office or lunchbox. Other men will see it and ask about it, and as men, we share sex tips to make our women hot. Problem is, this is the only true manual that gets the results we want from our partners. Best book I've ever read, flat out truth- Can't wait for the pot to boil over, I can feel it on it's way and see it in her eye's.

**ItsASecret** · 04-16-2011 03:15 PM

Problem is, this is the only true manual that gets the results we want from our partners.

Be careful with that statement. It is nice to think there is a manual for your woman type thing but each woman is different. Some love to be smothered with love and some do not like it at all. As long as you know what your woman wants that is what matters. Having something say "do this and she will react like this _______" sounds great on paper but again a lot of women will feel nothing for one thing and another woman will feel an immense response. Just do not treat the book as a manual or code for how to make your woman act a certain way, simply use it as you have been as a guide for doing things. If you do something and she simply does not like it then that is fine because now you know of something that is particular about her and will not do it again. Or the flip side you find something that you would not think did it for her, now you have something particular about her that you can gladly use to get a response.

**MarkT** · 04-16-2011 03:31 PM

I'm sorry, I didn't mean it that way. All women are deliciously different, that makes them unique. But her book is a general guide to females. I would never imply that all women are the same. I'm not using her techniques to manipulate my wife either. I just want to understand her better than I thought I did. Far be it from me to say that I understand any woman completely, even though I would love to have that knowledge to make myself the kind of man that she craves for and would love to have in her life. I only want my wife to be as happy with me aas I can possibly make her. I would like for her to know that she can come home to a pair of loving arms that will hold her and love her unconditionally, no matter what. I want to be the man she longs for and deserves.