Thread: I have a question for the Ladies about sex talk...

As described it the other post about sex talk, men told of their language to their partners. I'd like to know what women really love to hear in the bedroom. I tend to build my Lady up and tell her how she makes me feel and how soft her skin feels and all the things that I think she wants to hear. Am I wrong? I'd really like to understand what women Really want to hear to make the whole experience for them as sensual as it can be. I'd just like to hear what makes women go over the edge and go wild in bed.

I know all aren't the same, I'm just trying to get a generalization to try on my Lady. We are still crawling back at a snails pace, but I'm a very patient man.

Depends on the mood. Sometimes I like it sweet and sensual, other times I like it naughty. However I do think there is a difference between talking dirty and being derogatory. For example I think it's super hot to use naughty slang to describe a sexual act or certain parts of our anatomy, and what we would like to do to each other, that sort of thing. But I'm not really into being called dirty insulting names, because that's just not me. Being called a "naughty girl" or something like that is fine, and even exciting, because well that is the truth lol. But being called the S-word or W-word wouldn't fly with me. Some people are into that, which is fine... it depends on the context and what a couple does behind closed doors is their business. It all just comes down to communication, figuring out what is and isn't ok to say or do. To each their own.

Not a woman but since this is an open forum....


Compliment her...Tell her-between caresses-how hot she is. As you're going down on her, tell her how much you are enjoying the view.

A memorable compliment appeals to emotions, not vanity. Instead of saying "You look great", say "I always feel terrific when I'm with you".

Me personally I just like to hear i love you's ...call me a hopeless romantic :P

Seeker, she hates me down there at any time- I have always found that odd. She thinks it's nasty. I'm like????????

ShayShay, I'm a hopeless romantic too. But, it's tough to have a partner who isn't.

Firstly i would say its depends on mood...but sometime ur soft touch can change her mood , whenever u will hold her hold in such way tht she feels u r loving her then forcing her....hope its work for u coz its alwz works for me wen my love touch me.

You can tell her she's beautiful, and has amazing eyes, legs, body and so on.

But what a woman really wants to hear, is what he really feels for her. You cant just say what you think she wants to hear. Once you tell her from your heart what she means to you and how much you love her, that will mean more than anything else.

Look her in the eyes, tell her you love her more than anything else, and that you couldn't picture life without her, and that she is your world, your best friend and your soul-mate.

Originally Posted by Agony_Aunt

You can tell her she's beautiful, and has amazing eyes, legs, body and so on.

But what a woman really wants to hear, is what he really feels for her. You cant just say what you think she wants to hear. Once you tell her from your heart what she means to you and how much you love her, that will mean more than anything else.

Look her in the eyes, tell her you love her more than anything else, and that you couldn't picture life without her, and that she is your world, your best friend and your soul-mate.

I do this and she never believes me, she looks in the mirror and only sees what she sees. It really puts me into tears the way she cuts herself down. I try to tell her how I feel and I get no response. I tell her over and over that she is my world and my everything, but same old response. It's coming straight from my heart, tears and all, but nothing- I'm hoping one day she will believe me.

It sounds like she's suffering with some self esteem and confidence issue's about herself, this does not mean she doesn't believe that you love her. She knows you love her, but with the confidence issue's she herself feels bad about herself and can't understand why you love her, but she knows you do.

What is her same old response when you tell her what she means to you?

She says things like she isn't pretty and she doesn't like her body, that she's fat and things like that. Fat, my butt! She's 5' 6" - 5' 8" and around 160. Good grief- both my ex wives were 5' 3" or so and over 400. My wife wouldn't know fat if it came up and bit her. I know, it's her self image that's out of whack. Same old thing though, so frustrating to see something she doesn't and her image ruins our love life. That just isn't right.