Thread: Pegging - Please help!

We tried that for the first time a month or so ago. It's a very different power dynamic, where you are doing the thrusting. We used a feeldoe with a harness, and while it wasn't all that much for me, he enjoyed it. And I enjoy pleasuring him.

LOTS of lube, and just go slow. Make sure he gives you guidance on depth and speed.

I'm really short, so for us, he laid on his back on the bed, with his legs on the bureau behind me. He's not yet comfortable being on his knees for it. That wouldn't have worked for a tall girl though, so find what position works for you guys.

It was fun, seeing it more from the other point of view though. I recommend giving it a shot.

You say that you unsure if you have the confidence to do this. If your concern is simply over the mechanics of the thing then I think you both need to resign yourselves to a degree of experimentation. It certainly took us some time to sort out the 'equipment' and the positions etc and it's good that we both have a sense of humour and a degree of tenacity.

Don't expect that you will both have a mind-blowing time the first time or two you try it. However, for us both the reward has been worth the effort.

I should say that, although pegging can be part of a sub/Dom relationship it is not essentially so. We are both rather vanilla and use pegging as just one more way to make love in a what is a pretty ordinary marriage.

Good luck, and have fun!

I've thought about pegging quite a bit, although have always been a little shy about bringing it up with my wife. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? Also how will it feel for me, and if she uses a feeldoe or another doubleheader, will it feel good for her? Are feeldoes the way to go or is something else better?

Originally Posted by Brian79

I've thought about pegging quite a bit, although have always been a little shy about bringing it up with my wife. Does anyone have any advice on how to do that? Also how will it feel for me, and if she uses a feeldoe or another doubleheader, will it feel good for her? Are feeldoes the way to go or is something else better?

It is now some 12 years since I plucked up enough courage to ask my wife about this but I'm very glad I did. We caught the end of a late night sex program on UK Channel 5 that had a piece on it complete with a demonstration where the guy seemed to be enjoying it quite a lot! - pretty racy for UK TV back then. Anyway, I know it was something I really wanted to try and after about a week I just picked a quiet moment and, referring to the program, confessed that I wanted us to try it. To my great surprise my wonderful wife agreed.


There is a whole lot more information out there now that you could use to help you introduce the topic to your partner. There are even articles linking certain celebrities to pegging so the whole thing is rather more main-stream than it once was.


As for how you will feel, don't expect to be comfortable with it the first time or two but as you body becomes more accustomed to what is happening the pleasurable sensations of prostate stimulation will come to the fore. The orgasm is unlike that from conventional sex. It is a much more prolonged full-body experience with an all-over tingling sensation. You may also feel extremely hot - as if in a sauna.


As for your wife, we have used the Feeldoe and now use the Share and Share XL that are of a similar pattern to the Feeldoe. However, we have found that a harness is needed to keep the saddle of the toy in good contact with her as this provides clitoral stimulation. This certainly works very well for her.