Thread: I Can't Seem to Climax

Is there clitoral stimulation involved?

This used to happen to me frequently too. We called it the "Oh-oh-almost"'s. I figured out that, for me at least, there's such thing as too much of a good thing. The intense sensations that I thought were taking me to orgasm would turn from intensely good feeling to causing me pain, so I wasn't able to climax and we'd have to stop. I'd be sore and ticked at myself, feeling like a failure to my partner. He himself feeling like he was letting me down because I was so upset at myself. All the negative thoughts had a really bad effect on our sex life and especially my libido. In my experience it's really hard to get there putting so much pressure on yourself to perform.

Just an idea that maybe the sensation is too intense? Also I've noticed the more turned on I am the more hmm... fleshed-out(if that makes sense) that things seem to get and it almost acts like a buffer for the intense sensations.

I totally agree with Mes_T about learning yourself and keep trying to bring yourself to climax through masturbation. I had my first one with a vibrator as well.

Actually, it sounds like you might be having little ones but i don't know. Try starting out slowly and gently and building up to the really intense sensations. Or have him (or yourself, if you're masturbating) only do the touches that give you the most intense feeling for a few seconds then back off and do something softer in a different area then go back to the intense zone.

Are you both mainly focusing on your clit? Personally, there are times when I'm too aroused to orgasm from clitoral stimulation and I need my g-spot stimulated instead.

yeah i'll try masturbating, i have tried stimulating my clit with my fingers but i don't really feel anything. but is there anything you suggest i do when it gets to that intense anythingg to induce the orgasm?