New boyfriend is a tad on the small side

**Kay01** · 04-22-2011 03:01 AM

I'm sure this is an issue for women that has been addressed 2942845298429 times over, but it's been a few years since i've been on the site so i'm going to go the easy route and start a new discussion.

I have recently started dating a new guy after being in a relationship for 5 years and single for 6 months. The guy is amazing and one of the sweetest and caring guys i've ever met. We've had sex several times and the thing is, I can always feel it pretty well which is extremely odd for me as I get so lubricated, I generally can't feel sex at all. It isn't bad sex at all and he can go for quite awhile which is a nice change from my ex.
The thing is, a few nights ago while he and I were drinking and fooling around, I actually touched his penis for the first time and i'm pretty sure it's on the small side. I mean my ex wasn't huge but he was a decent size and I never felt a thing during sex with him. I'm not a shallow person so the fact that he's a little on the small side doesn't really bother me, except that we've been exploring oral sex lately and he's already "gone down on me" twice and i've yet to return the favor because i'm so afraid that it's too small and I won't know what to think or do. I feel terrible putting that out there, but it's the truth. I really like this guy so it's not like it's going to effect anything, I just want to be able for him to enjoy oral sex as much as I do without me making him feel awkward that I know it's small. He doesn't act like he notices in the slightest. He is always eager to have sex with me and I know he's not a virgin so i'm not sure. Any advice on how to make this less awkward?

**SidneyAlive** · 04-22-2011 05:27 AM

Why would it matter if he's small if you're giving him oral sex ??

**Jim60** · 04-22-2011 05:59 AM

Don't worry about it, he obviously isn't, though he might be a little concerned that you haven't returned the oral. How can you be unsure of the size, heven't you even had a hand on it or seen it? Get down there and check it out! There will be no awkwardness I'm sure.

**WildChild** · 04-22-2011 07:48 AM

Why oh Why is this even a question? You are enjoying sex with him, nothing else matters. Obviously his size is not a problem.

**spurzzz** · 04-22-2011 03:32 PM

Is he ashemed of his penis? Has his actions at all told you inadvertently it may be playing on his mind?

If a dude is not ashamed of his penis and is experienced he is going to pull down his pants with it all to see. Just take it easy and make him feel relaxed while taking the initiative. He will know if he is small or not and he will easily be able to tell if you think so too so be careful.

Dip your middle finger in a tub of Nutella and practice away!

**Schroeder** · 04-22-2011 05:46 PM

How do you have sex without seeing his penis?
Does he sneak up behind you?

Are you doing it exclusively in the dark?

**kristalyn_04** · 04-22-2011 06:13 PM

Yeah... I really don't see how or why this would be a problem. Smaller penises are actually easier for oral sex. As long as you don't have any sort of negative reaction to seeing his penis, there shouldn't be an issue.

**SidneyAlive** · 04-22-2011 08:29 PM

Smaller is easier on the jaws...

**jns** · 04-22-2011 09:59 PM

Originally Posted by Kay01

I'm sure this is an issue for women that has been addressed 2942845298429 times over, but it's been a few years since i've been on the site so i'm going to go the easy route and start a new discussion.

I have recently started dating a new guy after being in a relationship for 5 years and single for 6 months. The guy is amazing and one of the sweetest and caring guys i've ever met. We've had sex several times and the thing is, I can always feel it pretty well which is extremely odd for me as I get so lubricated, I generally can't feel sex at all. It isn't bad sex at all and he can go for quite awhile which is a nice change from my ex.
The thing is, a few nights ago while he and I were drinking and fooling around, I actually touched his penis for the first time and i'm pretty sure it's on the small side. I mean my ex wasn't huge but he was a decent size and I never felt a thing during sex with him. I'm not a shallow person so the fact that he's a little on the small side doesn't really bother me, except that we've been exploring oral sex lately and he's already "gone down on me" twice and i've yet to return the favor because i'm so afraid that it's too small and I won't know what to think or do. I feel terrible putting that out there, but it's the truth. I really like this guy so it's not like it's going to effect anything, I just want to be able for him to enjoy oral sex as much as I do without me making him feel awkward that I know it's small. He doesn't act like he notices in the slightest. He is always eager to have sex with me and I know he's not a virgin so i'm not sure. Any advice on how to make this less awkward?

I see this as not a him problem, but a you problem. Physically he is not what you want. Can you change your thinking to be comfortable with him as he is? In such a scenario, most people will become resentful over time because they will feel they are missing out. I think you two are not compatible as it is now.

**spurzzz** · 04-22-2011 11:49 PM

Originally Posted by jns

I see this as not a him problem, but a you problem. Physically he is not what you want. Can you change your thinking to be comfortable with him as he is? In such a scenario, most people will become resentful over time because they will feel they are missing out. I think you two are not compatible as it is now.

In retrospect, you are actually saying size does matter to women or some women at least. It seems those who may have experienced a different more sensational high with a bigger penis feel very let down if that area cannot be fulfilled. It then, I suppose, depends on the strength of character for the woman in question as to whether or not she can look at all the other positives in that man and find another area of excitement within that area...

So you can have too big a penis and too small a penis and too thin a penis and too thick a penis!..............they may as well have us on display at the supermarket lol

For me, its so sad a thought that us guys worry about what our sexual partner thinks about the size of our manhood.