why can't i have an orgasm??

**cessca14** · 04-22-2011 10:13 AM

heyy people

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i need tips lots of tips i just can't seem to orgasm. I'm struggling to reach orgasm with my partner/ (myself) -i seem to get very close when he fingers and goes down on me (never through sex) it feels amazing always.
I get this instense feeling of pleasure and i feel like i'm about to literally explode and get the whole i'm gonna pee myself feeling too, i get goosebumps and shake a little though that only lasts a few seconds but the intense feelings are so amazing that i just want more and more(that can go on for ages) but no orgasm. I feel as though I'm so close yet can't power through.
i tell him wat feels good and show him what i do and hes great but it goes on for so long (like 2 hours sometimes) and i mean after 2 hours u just want to have that finishing touch, but nothing (which ca get a little frustrating).
During it i totally forget about climaxing (i mean its so intense you forget about everything) so i'm not over thinking it, panicking or stressed but afterward when i'm relaxing and it pops into my head that i didn't.

please i need help and advice and tips and suggestions- what to do when i feel like i'm about to orgasm but don't? how can i induce the orgasm? what do u do right before it happens?? Mainly girls but i appreciate Guys opinions tooo .

thanksx

**jns** · 04-22-2011 07:12 PM

Relax and let go. You are probably trying too hard.

**FortunsFoole** · 04-22-2011 08:50 PM

I can't tell you a surefire way to make it happen.. but this is how I got over it.

I had this problem too... when I would almost get there that peeing sensation would kill it because of my fear of it actually happening. Getting beyond that I found that I had to get more lost in my body instead of my head. I can't consciously concentrate on the fact I'm going to orgasm or it goes away.. and even when I was getting distracted from the thoughts of it during a different sensation, it would randomly show up again and I'd lose the progress I made... I have to treat it like just a really REALLY intense wonderful sensation like all the others and nothing to actually do with an orgasm and I'll end up falling over that edge unintentionally. The first time that happened is when I realized how much pressure I was actually putting on myself in the first place.

It seems the more I think about wanting to orgasm, the harder and sometimes seemingly impossible it is to achieve(not to mention frustrating). When I could care less about it and am not anticipating it is when I have the best ones.