I am kind of a big girl

**twizzie** · 04-28-2011 01:25 PM

6'1, 275 lbs...(I look about 200 lbs, though...)

I do NOT like having sex with me on top. I feel so ugly, fat, and gross.
Even though he says it's the best...
I can't really do anything on top either. I can't move fast, or anything... well, I can, I just dont think I want to because I'm afraid of him not thinking I'm sexy due to my fat-ness.

It's sad on my part. I feel like if I dont do it though, that he gets tired of our sex life.

**twizzie** · 04-28-2011 02:26 PM

Reeeallly? Ok. Cause that's what I do. I didn't know :P hehe

**oxy-moron** · 04-28-2011 02:35 PM

Listen to your boyfriend - he knows what he likes.-Its you.
Males like curves- its preprogrammed into us.
Forget about images in magazines- they are made by women and gay men - The images are so far from what men truly like its not funny.
Like the joke about men seeing themselves in the mirror as gods irrespective of what they really are. And women seeing themselves as undesirable -no matter how attractive they really are.
Give your man a treat- he deserves it.

**Texinator** · 04-28-2011 02:45 PM

Originally Posted by twizzie

I do NOT like having sex with me on top. I feel so ugly, fat, and gross.

I'm sure he disagrees. No better view than looking up at your beautiful lady.

**Robert42d** · 04-28-2011 02:55 PM

Twizzie, Believe in yourself! Take him at his word! There's many men out there who loves bigger women!
I've been dealing with my own demons for many years now.. I've learned with time to be what you are not what you not.... I truly wish you happiness.... Take-care!

**Mes T** · 04-28-2011 03:19 PM

I agree with the others. Hey look at the end of the day, if your man didn't find you irresistable and amazing the way that you are, he would NOT be having sex with you! Truuust me.

If he wants you to be on top, he WANTS to look at you, to touch you...

We've all had similar worries at some point, just trust your man's reaction.

**oxy-moron** · 04-28-2011 04:36 PM

If he comes while you are on top it is a good sign that he really enjoys it.

**MarkT** · 05-01-2011 05:24 PM

There are a lot of guys like me,
Women big, small, short, tall.
Blonde, brunette, red and black.
Size matters not,
You women, I love you all!!!

I'd bet he loves to see you on top and thinks you are his Everything. If it feels good and he's smiling, it's great to be there eh? Just let things happen and enjoy it, let go of the negatives that drag you down, just enjoy each other. No worries, just love!

**Beautiful Disaster** · 05-01-2011 07:12 PM

You're missing out.

You will not be able to fully enjoy that position until you lose the inhibitions and the mental blockages. Let me tell you, there is NOTHING a man enjoys more than seeing his woman have an explosive toe curling orgasm during sex with him........I don't care how tall you are, how much you weigh, how many rolls you have here or there, how many stretch marks, cellulite, etc. He's seen ya naked....and he still wants to have sex with you, right? Matter of fact, he wants to marry you.

Enjoy it...it's one of the best positions for the woman.