Thread: Wanting intercourse but nervous over kill?

Ok, I'm no virgin so i have had sex before with my boyfriend.
I want to always have sex with him. We both have high cravings for each other but we can't always have it all the time. When ever we do get the chance as soon as we get close to each other i start to push him away and not allowing things. We do end up doing it but it takes him like an hour to get me to stop and let him do the work.
I don't know what is wrong. I know i DO want to have fun with him but for some reason i always greak out get really nervous and put my hands in the way and like avoid it. I never realise i'm doing it until afterwards.
Anyone else have this problem? How can i stop it so we can make love? Whats causing the annoying inability to just relax?

There is obviously something bothering you.

You say you want it to happen, but only as soon as you get close you push him away. Is there something he does, that makes you clammer up and push him away?

Sounds like you should slow down a little & get more comfortable with him. Sex with someone you love is supposed to be special. If you're nervous, maybe y'all should put less focus on sex & more on rubbing & kissing until you can relax & naturally be more intimate. Maybe start with a massage.

When you have had sex how was it? I'm not really meaning the act of sex but how he treated you during it, after it... Do you get to be affectionate and loving or is it more like do the deed and hurry up??

I agree with Agony_Aunt, sounds like theres more of a mental block for you because your body urges for it but your mind says no

I agree with crystalblue u should start with massage..just feel relax and open to him... dnt think something else when u r making love with him...