I Listened to You Once and Overall It Helped Majorly....I'm Now Wishing For a Repeat

**srussell** · 04-30-2011 03:35 PM

http://www.womens-health.com/boards/...html#post80409

It's been a while since I posted the first question when I was 17 and the replys were so good, and I actually listened and took all of the advice that here I am two years later with a different problem. I'm hoping for 2 out of 2.

I'm in my second year of university and a member of a popular on-campus sorority that I enjoy participating in. Occasionally we have a membership drive with another fraternity and afterwards we celebrate and it's usually spontanious, never planned.

Last weekend, we had a little gettogether at our sorority house and the frats came over. By the way, out of 14 sorority girls, 6 are dating 6 of the 16 frat guys. After midnight, and after two kegs were disposed of, although some didn't want to participate, all relinquished negative ideas and had the guys play a game to see who had the biggest penis and each guy had two girls to inspect. Needless to say, some were happy and some were happier. The girls could inspect no more than two guys and then the final winners 1st, 2nd, and 3rd place won dates with any of the girls and it was the guys that got to choose. I got ask out by the 1st and 3rd place winner and they both have girl friends and both guys gfs have ask me to not go out with their bfs. The rules were made up as we went along, but most of the rules were made up by about 8 or 9 of the girls, mostly those that didn't have bfs. I'm a little bit perplexed as what I should do. I broke up with my bf a couple of months ago so I don't even have the support of a bf telling me not to go out with them.

Any ideas........HOPE, HOPE, HOPE???

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 04-30-2011 03:54 PM

Silly games when alcohol is involved huh

I would simply smile nicely at the guys and say , " hey, there was so much alcohol huh, you know I'm not going on a date with you guys, you have girlfriends, the rules were made up when everyone was drinking" and laugh...

If you say it naturally and with fun behind your voice, laugh at the end, they won't see you as being witchy, rather, smart and the girls will thank you..

As for the other girls who don't have boyfriends that voted for this, if they diss you over it? Just say hey if he was your boyfriend you'd think differently huh and wouldn't want me to, pitty they have girlfriends 1...is kind of cute...see again just make it light and fun in your reply .

Both parties know you are right and just keep laughing it off if they object...

CW

**Hopeless Dork** · 04-30-2011 04:52 PM

A deals a deal. A bets a bet. Right? Wrong. It was fun while it was happening, everyone was drunk and it seemed like a good idea at the time. I'm sure its pretty awkward for those guys as well to date one of their gf's sisters and I'm sure they will be secretly happy you let them off the hook -- not that they wouldn't want to date you , but unless they are mentally challenged they will realize the fights and cold shoulders it will create in their relationship.

I'm sure if THEY were the ones to back out -- they would get much more heat from their housemates (being guys) calling them p-whipped and etc for cancelling out on the date... you however, won't get that much heat and secretly, or even publically the ones with that are dating those guys will have so much respect for you -- so will the other girls. It will be a true act of sisterhood to NOT follow through. The girls will trust you more, see you as someone they can appreciate isn't after their men.

**Hopeless Dork** · 04-30-2011 04:56 PM

PS -- those guys were morons for not selecting their own gf's for the date. Not ones you should have any real interest in anyway as they just showcased how boneheaded they are lol.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 04-30-2011 07:22 PM

If you had a boyfriend, how would you react to him telling you "yeah, I made a deal that if I let these random girls inspect my penis and rate it's size, then I'd get to pick one to go out with, so ummm...looks like I'm going on a date with another girl." ????

You don't need a boyfriend to tell you not to go out with a guy who is already taken.

You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, regardless of who made what bet. Period.

Now the question is, is there a part of you that is wanting to go out with this guy?

**jns** · 04-30-2011 07:40 PM

Are you game to have sex with these guys? If not, you could be in a situation that could become date rape. Not to say the guys will do it, but they may believe the rules are different than you think they are. After all, you all were drunk when doing this.

I might point out that 16 guys needing inspection by two girls who each can inspect no more than two guy search requires a minimum of 32 inspections and you girls can do a maximum of 28 inspections, following the rules stated. Therefore for all the guys to be inspected, someone broke the rules. If the rules are enforced that laxly, they will most likely enforced laxly in the future.

As for 1st and 3rd place, they probably believe they are such co-men that they can make you their new gf, so no need to stay with the current gf. Remember that what goes around, comes around. You would probably be on the bottom side of such a situation in the future. I don't consider those guys to be gentlemen.

**Hopeless Dork** · 05-01-2011 03:20 AM

Would you want to date a guy that shows girls his penis to have it sized up, when he has a girlfriend? To win a date with a girl of his choice? He doesn't sound like a prize.