Thread: Not confident - Girl on top

I've been dating my boyfriend for about 5 months now. We have sex often and he always tells me how sexy I am and how I turn him on. But I never feel that way. I've never been on top when we've had sex and it's really starting to bother me. I feel like that would make me feel sexy and like I really am turning him on. Last time we had sex I tried to do it, but I got up there and just felt so nervous and didn't know what to do. I know he didn't enjoy it because minutes later he grabbed me and flipped me onto the bottom. I don't even want to have sex with him again because I feel so bad about making him do all the work each time we do.

Our 6 month is happening in about 3 days and I wanted to surprise him with at least feeling a little more confident about being on top and him hopefully enjoying it. I need some serious details about what to do. Advice on movements I should do, do I use my legs? Or do I use my hips? I just want to feel confident and right now, I can't, I just want some idea of what I should do.

Thanks :/

What you should do... while you are on top, that will turn him on THE most... is just try to get off. By that I mean... do what it takes to make yourself feel good with his penis... trust that what is making you feel good -- will make him feel good. Don't worry about 'performing'... relax and concentrate on the pleasure and do whatever comes naturally to facilitate that. Grinding on him, leaning forward a bit to rub your clit on against his body, leaning back... so that you can angle his penis to your gspot... wiggling around for extra stimulation... just do what feels GOOD to you.

Ive heard guys say that girl on top sex isn't necessary the best feeling on their penis than other positions provide -- its about the visual. Its about being able to see your body, to watch your face and to see you gyrate around trying to orgasm.

You can touch your breasts, you can masturbate yourself, you can lean down and kiss him, you can rub your breasts in his face, you can spread your legs and give him the best view possible... but most importantly... focus on your own pleasure... him watching you enjoy yourself , no matter what you are doing... is going to be the high point of the whole thing.

From my experience, this is just me, men tend to like being on top better. I think it's tighter for them or something. So it might not have been that you were doing something wrong when you got on top, just that he prefers the feel of being on top himself. I think HD has given some great advice though. Try that and if it doesn't work (but I think it will) ask him what it is about girl on top that he isn't into. He will more than likely tell you it's a pressure issue, which really isn't something you can control. Then, try another position that puts you in control.

What hopelessdork said! Do what feels best to you - that is what he will enjoy most. The physical sensation for men isn't the main appeal of this - its watching and feeling your partner really enjoy themselves. BTW if he said he thinks you are sexy - then that is what he really thinks