reyna

I had sex at an early age. I got married at 18. Kids began 4yrs later. Now I am a mother of many beautiful babies. I have been married for 11yrs now and feel very frustrated. I was not talked to about sex. I was only told not until after marriage. I got married wanting sex daily. For the first month it was fine, but then we had sex only on the weekends due to work. When I was pregnant I hardly had sex. If I did not get it on the weekends I would cry, or threaten to leave him because he did not show me that he was interested in me. I had breast implants done and tummy tuck.. that helped for the first month... then back to weekends only. I have such a large appetite for sex... It is scarry. We went out with friends this weekend and I was having unpure thoughts about one of my friends friends that had joined us. Especially because he was very flirtacious with other women. I have talked to my husband about my appetite.. he says that I make him feel like he is not doing his part as a MAN. Any suggestions. I need help!

Beiam

First of all, your husband is so chauvinist. If you have all this unsatisfied appetite, of course he is not doing his part as man.

This is nothing wrong with you. If you were a man, no one would find it strange, even if you flirted with other woman or watched pornography at home. But remember: you have the same sexual rights as any man.

My advice is to make him understand that he is not doing enough, and that you need another ways to satisfy yourself if he doesn't help you.

Shal

Buy a vibrator and go to town!

creativename

If you are having quite a bit of sex with your husband and still feeling unsatisfied I would suggest seeing a mental health specialist as it may be a deeper problem. If you are not getting much sex from your husband both you and him need to have a deep talk about fulfilling both of your needs. If he feels that he is not enough of a man he may need to seek mental help or you need to assure him of your love and fidelity while still telling him that he needs to step it up. Tread gently though as it may be a sensitive subject. Sex problems are often born of other problems in life.

PixieDuzt

Agreed! You cannot rely solely on your man to fulfill your sexual needs. You need to be able to deal with it yourself. There is nothing wrong with releasing the sexual tension yourself, no matter what the over-the-top christians say. You just can't expect someone else to make YOU happy all the time. It would take so much stress off of the both of you and your marriage.

shauna

All this about how you should see a shrink is bull. Some people just have bigger sexual needs than others do. The suggestion for a vibrater is excellent though. this tummy tuck is great if IS FOR YOU, and not for him. Remember There are many fish in the sea. I am not saying by any means that you should leave your husband. I think you should set him down amd talk about it. If he is unwilling to consider your feelings their may be a bigger underlying problem. Still I love my husband more than life itself and i have a huge sexual appitite! He really does not. I usually try to intise him by being spontainious and trying different things. But when it comes to me I have two dildo and a toy.

KISH

Well First Of All...i Dont See How The Vibrator Will Work. Thatll Only Make Your Husband Feel Worse Than He Does. Maybe You Should See What Nights Are Good For You To Endulge Yourself In Love Making With Your Husband. Maybe Its Not That He Doesnt Want You, But Emotionally, He Might Not Want To Initiate Or Endulge Becuase He Might Be Feeling That He Wont Do You Any Good Anway. Try Your Love Making On Days Besides The Weekends And See How That Goes. Good Luck

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creativename

Obviously you've never used a rabbit then. Way better then men are when you just need to get off ...

And to an above poster, mental health care is not a bull option. If she is changing her body not for her but for her husband, and feels disparate or wrong, then a therapist can help sort out feelings. She doesn't need to be on meds or anything, but having someone to bounce your deep thoughts off is a great things to have!

Really the original poster needs to have a deep and opening conversation (or conversations) with her husband to sort out their problems and feelings.

foxyscarlett

A vibrator is an EXCELLENT suggestion. Keep him in the loop though so he doesnt get intimidated, take him with you to pick it out. When you're feeling frisky before you use it suggest he come, or even use it on you...this may keep him involved, but give you the oppurtunity to handle business.

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