just started having sex with girlfriend

**vicc.c** · 05-06-2011 10:54 AM

I am a 23 year old guy and just started having sex with my GF. I have been single for over 8 years and this its my really first true relationship. the sex is good, we both make each other cum and there are no problems. but after a few times now, i don't really feel like sex is the greatest thing ever anymore... don't get me wrong though, I still enjoy sex but when I used to masturbate alot I always thought finally having sex would be so great but I don't think I m enjoying it as much add I fantisized for so long.

I hate to say it but after masturbating to other people having sex for so long im a bit more turn on by that then even having sex myself, is this normal? will I start to enjoy sex more when I have more of it?

thanks.

**oxy-moron** · 05-06-2011 08:36 PM

Sex has been overhyped by the media.
What you get out of it is controlled by many different factors. Your health- your age- your hormones-your mental health - your feelings for the other.
Overall these things will ebb and flow like the tide.
You are at the beach one day the sun is is shining- the tide is in - you are with your loved one and things are fantastic. A few days later the tide may be out - the weather overcast and you are fighting with your lover over something silly.

Dont get down because you have imagined a perfect day and it has just been overcast. Things will improve as the other factors improve.

**jns** · 05-06-2011 09:35 PM

When you masturbate to porn you are getting mostly visual stimulation, with you supplying the physical stimulation. With a real gf you are not limited to one or two senses. I hope you like giving oral and your gf likes getting it because you can stimulate smell, taste and touch with a gf. In addition, you can get visuals that you will never see in a porn flick. Rework your understanding of what good sex is. It is probably best to quit any use of porn cold turkey to accomplish this.