Thread: I'm not cumming when having sex with my boyfriend....

My wife never comes from intercourse. After 20+ years of marriage, I don't think that's going to change. It's just the way she is built. I'll bring her to orgasm orally, possibly with some help from her Hitachi Magic Wand, and then we have intercourse.

Yes he does preform oral on me and I feel very close to orgasm but unfortunately that semes to turn him on so much that when we have sex after oral he seems to bust faster! not like immediately.. but its like at the point to which he climaxes thats when I feel mine finally starting to 'build up' haha its so frusterating.. its like man if we could just go a LITTLE bit longer...

I've thought about toys/vibrators ect. but I'd really not like to rely on toys for me to climax with him, if that makes sense. I want just him and me to be able to achiece it.. because i feel at this point he needs that for his own mental satisfaction as well... the other night he's like 'god I just want to make you cum ONCE' .. ahhhh idk what to do.

And now I think I'm 'overthinking' it during sex.. kind of like a watched pot never boils, or how slowely time passes when you watch the clock... well i have a feeling that if I'm just stressing over climaxing its not gonna happen..

Thanks alot for all your input any more ideas/thoughts welcome!

Hi
If you want him to last longer you can try getting him to contract his pelvic floor muscles at moment of Orgasm.
These are the muscles that will stop urine flow.( He might have to build them up using Pelvic floor exercise. Holding and releasing the muscles for 20 second periods several times a day)
When he is about to come he clamps down and stops semen release. He will get the Orgasm feeling but no relief feeling- his penis will stay hard and he will be able to keep going for ages- If he is young enough he should be able to come a second time without going soft. (Note this is not a form of contraceptive)