Thread: LDR and Skype sex.. I need some help

I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy that I truly love. He's in the Army, and a few months ago he came home on leave and it was our first time having sex with each other, and everything was great. I didn't feel too nervous, I felt really comfortable with him, and we tried out some new things together.

Now that he's back in South Korea, however, he wants to have sex over webcam. I've always thought it's an odd concept, just because I would be put on the spot and I really can't do that, but I decided to try it for him last night... It was awful. I was so nervous and scared! I was shaking, my throat was dry, my tongue seemed to be stuck to the roof of my mouth and my stomach felt like it had dropped to my feet. He knew I was nervous and kept trying to get me to say something, or do something to let him know I liked it (Which I did, he's so handsome!)

I want to try and get over my nervousness. Even thinking about it today makes me feel how I did last night! I wish I knew exactly why I felt this way but I don't. I just don't feel comfortable being naked on cam with him, touching myself, even though I feel like in person I wouldn't have a big deal with it.

If anyone could help me, or try and give advice on how to slowly get over this, that would be so wonderful! I want to do this for him but I don't even know where to begin.

Well, of course cyber sex is never the same as actual sex. You're there, basically putting on a show for him, he can't touch you or experience that physical closeness, it's all you and he's watching. If you're comfortable enough with each other to have sex, then there's really no reason why you should be uncomfortable with him seeing your body and watching you have fun with yourself under his guidance and encouragement.

Start off slowly, ask him to help guide you. If you start to feel uncomfortable, back off, maybe ask him to do something for you, just talk dirty for a little while, and build it up slowly. You don't have to get completely naked just starting off, go as far as you are comfortable going then try to go a little further the next time.