Thread: Strapon sex

I'll fall back on the mantra of "safe, sane, consensual'. I believe that any activity between adults that meets these requirements is fine. I believe that people who are open minded and willing to explore new things are likely to have more enjoyable sex lives, and their partners are less, not more likely to stray because the are getting everything they want at home.

People shouldn't feel they have to do something they don't want, but in general I think a sexual relationship if best if each partner does all they can to please the other.

Whether strapon play is "gay" or not doesn't seem at all important.

Originally Posted by ItsASecret

Probably because very few men will go to statistics for information, and when something is put into their butthole they do not like since it is still far more associated with actions taken by gay men whether or not numbers say so. Some men just do not care for that sort of association so they let their woman partake in it for them, not all men share that opinion though.



lol men are simple when it comes to that, a woman giving the bj is more 'sexually acceptable' than a woman shoving her finger or penile object in for anal play therefore making a bj from a woman by no means gay.

Statistics have also shown that many men like looking at penises when watching porn (ever wonder why fallatio is so popular with male audiences?). I don't think it's JUST that anal sex is seen as something for gay men (though I do think that's a big part of it). There's a reason that homosexuality, particularly in men, is so taboo. It's considered weak. Some men don't like going down on women for the same reason: it's submissive. I think a lot of men are attracted to the penis without being homosexual at all. Call it a "penis fetish" or whatever you want, but it exists in a great deal of men.

More than that, though, I think that men simply aren't used to being penetrated. My fiance has used a finger on me two or three times, but nothing more than that and not recently because I just...didn't really like it. Weird thing is I thought I would. I've fantasized about her using a strapon on me more than once (though also not often) but once something is in my backside it feels so....out of the norm that I can't stay aroused very well. Also might be because she has nails and that wasn't particularly comfortable. Regardless, I can't imagine trying to get something 5 inches in circumference in there. I still think I might like to try it sometime though, because it provides a different kind of intimacy. Like I said, men aren't used to being penetrated.

I'd kind of like to know what it's like to be in her position during sex. A woman using a strapon on her man is the closest a couple can come to switching roles, and I'm interested in what sex is like from a woman's perspective. I don't think that's inherently homosexual, nor should that really matter for a loving couple who just want to experiment in the bedroom.

OH, I will note the following incident, however. My fiance has a friend who is in her second marriage. In her first marriage, her now ex-husband liked her to use a strapon on him. She one day caught him going down on another guy (hence why they're divorced). What amazes me about that is that my fiance knows this about her friend's sex life. Women share a LOT of details lol.

Originally Posted by waya

I think the friends discussion would take up a lot of space on this thread. Feel free to pm me if you would like to discuss it further.

But he doesn't want to have sex with a man. You're totally missing that because you can't understand why he would want his wife to do that to him other than if he was gay. Maybe you could try just taking him at his word when he says he only wants to share this sexual intimacy with his wife. There are sexual proclivities out there that I don't understand at all but I try not to make assumptions about the people that engage in them for that very reason. I don't understand so I wouldn't know what I was talking about.

Ahh...ok nope Ima cut it out, because your right we've clearly taken up our fair share on this one. So until then......*tips hate*