Thread: First orgasm felt...odd?

I'm 19 years old, 20 come June, and I thought I had experienced orgasms before, that great rush of pleasure following by my own, erm, "mess". My boyfriend, who I've been with a few months now, always worried when he had sex that he didn't please me enough because my orgasms felt so "calm".

Yesterday, as we were making love, he started to stimulate me with his hand, focusing a lot on my clitoris (which I haven't decided if I like or not. Lots of nerves, so it feels good, but it makes my muscles tighten and after awhile I feel sort of strained). He started doing a combination of inside and outside stimulation, and it felt wonderful, but the more he did it the less I felt able to handle it. My body started to tremble and I could barely speak, or think for that matter. All I knew was that I was trembling and my chest was welling up like I was about to cry and a part of me was trying to tell him, "Stop! No more!" even another part of me was enjoying it greatly. I tried to pull his hand away but I could barely even move.

At one point I was finally able to voice out, "Please, stop!" but I suppose he must have seen that I was still torn between enjoying it and not, because he whispered that it was ok, just push through it, and that did it. Suddenly my muscles started to relax and a lot of the nerves that were making me uncomfortable were gone, and I honestly sort of blanked out for a few moments, but after that everything was odd again and I just wanted him to stop. I was in enough control this time that I was able to grab his hand and gasp out "No more!".

He stopped and I still remember the worry in his eyes, and he tried to talk and cuddle and ask if he had hurt me and was already apologizing for it, but I couldn't even speak to him, I was still shaking a little and just buried myself in his arms and hid there for a bit. Later I reassured him that he didn't HURT me, but I still don't know what to tell him as to what I actually FELT, and I feel a bit embarrassed at what happened. I don't want him put off by me, or for him to think that he's not "good" enough...but at the same time, I'm not sure what to think of this orgasm. I didn't NOT like it, but I can't say I LOVED it either, I'm not sure why, maybe because I felt too vulnerable or maybe a senses over-load, but I'm not sure I want it too happen again...what do I do?

I know what you mean by saying that you felt like you can not handle it. I think that there is different levels of orgasms personally. I have as you said made a "mess" and thought that that sensation was it. Well apparently not...lol One night my legs started trembling and it was like a feeling in my vagina that I can not even explain, it was hard to talk and it felt good but it a way it made my emoticons feel like they wanted to run wild.

If you felt like it was too much for you then tell him that you like it the other way or you need to step into it more slowly. Reassure him that everything he was doing in the past was just right. Ask him if he wants more or if there is anything you can do to stimulate him more. Make it about both of you!