Thread: Masturbation as part of couples sex

(I posted this in the "watching men masturbate" thread and the moderators asked me to post this as a new thread -- so here it is. Please feel free to chime in with your input)

I need to post in this thread as my first post, as this is one of my favorite topics (and activities).

Masturbation plays a huge role in my sexual relationship with my wife. I really enjoy masturbating in front of her. Sadly, she is not particularly turned on by it, but it is a huge turn on for me. It satisfies my exhibitionist tendencies and turns me on because it seems so “naughty” – no doubt because all boys are taught that it is naughty. And, what could be more naughty than jerking off in front of a woman?

One of my favorite things is when my wife dresses up in something sexy and performs a strip tease for me while I jerk off. I lube up my member and just enjoy looking at her body while I stroke myself (I prefer KY Jelly and occasionally dip my hand in a cup of water to keep things slippery -- gals, you might try this method on your man the next time he's in the mood for a hand job). It’s like a live porn show. I love for her to see how much she turns me on.

Sometimes she will get turned on by the activity and grab her magic wand and do herself too. This mutual masturbation is also a big turn on.

Other times I will just jerk off in the bathroom while she is bathing or putting on her makeup. We usually have sex afterwards, and jerking off while she is getting ready is a great way for me to extend the experience.

Sometimes on long road trips she will masturbate in the passenger seat while I drive. I bought her a battery-operated “bullet” vibrator which, under normal circumstances, does not provide enough sensation for her, but in this situation she often climaxes with its help. Then we change places and I get to have my fun.

Probably the biggest turn on for me is for me to masturbate while she performs analingous on me. More than anything else, this will bring me to a climax the fastest. I can't emphasize enough what a physical thrill this is. I would wager that most guys would ejaculate immediately if you started tickling their anus with your tongue while they were masturbating.

One final note, I do not like to climax from masturbating. It leaves me feeling a little empty. I much prefer to climax inside of her. The emotional connection from that is great. I just use masturbation to extend my personal pleasure and to get warmed up for the real thing.

Originally Posted by Chas

(I posted this in the "watching men masturbate" thread and the moderators asked me to post this as a new thread -- so here it is. Please feel free to chime in with your input)

I need to post in this thread as my first post, as this is one of my favorite topics (and activities).

Masturbation plays a huge role in my sexual relationship with my wife. I really enjoy masturbating in front of her. Sadly, she is not particularly turned on by it, but it is a huge turn on for me. It satisfies my exhibitionist tendencies and turns me on because it seems so “naughty” – no doubt because all boys are taught that it is naughty. And, what could be more naughty than jerking off in front of a woman?

One of my favorite things is when my wife dresses up in something sexy and performs a strip tease for me while I jerk off. I lube up my member and just enjoy looking at her body while I stroke myself (I prefer KY Jelly and occasionally dip my hand in a cup of water to keep things slippery -- gals, you might try this method on your man the next time he's in the mood for a hand job). It’s like a live porn show. I love for her to see how much she turns me on.

Sometimes she will get turned on by the activity and grab her magic wand and do herself too. This mutual masturbation is also a big turn on.

Other times I will just jerk off in the bathroom while she is bathing or putting on her makeup. We usually have sex afterwards, and jerking off while she is getting ready is a great way for me to extend the experience.

Sometimes on long road trips she will masturbate in the passenger seat while I drive. I bought her a battery-operated “bullet” vibrator which, under normal circumstances, does not provide enough sensation for her, but in this situation she often climaxes with its help. Then we change places and I get to have my fun.

Probably the biggest turn on for me is for me to masturbate while she performs analingous on me. More than anything else, this will bring me to a climax the fastest. I can't emphasize enough what a physical thrill this is. I would wager that most guys would ejaculate immediately if you started tickling their anus with your tongue while they were masturbating.

One final note, I do not like to climax from masturbating. It leaves me feeling a little empty. I much prefer to climax inside of her. The emotional connection from that is great. I just use masturbation to extend my personal pleasure and to get warmed up for the real thing.

You are a happy husband with a happy wife. I envy your act of love. My husband is cold and keeps himself away and hardly turns me on. I do it myself and I have sex toy since it is not available in my part of the world.