Thread: When we can't have sex...

You have both just let yourselves slide into some bad habbits.
Tell him you have been getting an uncontollable urge to bite his penis and that you are really worried that you wont be able to resist the urge- this will give him something to think about.
Like WC says you can do it during your period.
I would have to say some some of the hotest sex ever is the first day or two of the period.
For some reason ladies get hot and bothered round that time.

My wife loves it when I go down on her during her period. She washes first and puts in a fresh tampon. This usually leads to her subsequently removing her tampon so we can have intercourse (with a towel under her, of course).

May I suggest that the only difference between you feeling like a tool and you feeling aroused by what he is doing is your state of mind? Your real sex organ (your brain) is calling the shots here.

I don't let my boyfriend in my panties when I'm on my period.. even though when I am on my period is when I am THE MOST horny, and THE most sensitive/responsive... I'll masturbate myself at that time of the month and the orgasms are always extremely intense with the mildest of stimulation...

But as chas mentions, its a mental thing. I know I am 'clean' when its that time, I wash frequently, fresh girlie-stick inserted, but I'm mortified at the thought of him being turned off by me in any way shape or form so I prefer to keep the mystery on that one :P

But I must say that my boyfriend gets QUITE a healthy dose of sexual attention when its 'that time' for me... since I am at the THE MOST horny time...lol.. i am on him like crazy ... lots of bjs, lots of fondeling, lots of clothes on making out. In a way I kind of like the no sex thing during that time... it allows there to be some build up... something extra special to look forward to on the 'all clear' day :P

I would agree with the majority of what people are saying. However control is an amazingly powerful (and useful) thing and he may be getting off on the power that he has or percieves that he has over you in the situations you described. There are a three things I could suggest, you need to either accept it, rechannel it, or you need to stop it all together by talking to him and making him aware of how you feel.
If you accept it remember you need to gain your own control, so do little things that you know drive him crazy. Looking into his eyes, running your hands all over him. That way you have as much control over his lust as he has over yours.
The other option is rechanneling it so instead of letting him touch himself while you give him a bj get him to use his "power" with something else with something you like, being pinned down, or letting you tease him back, are good examples.
Over all though I think conversation is the most important thing because the more you feel used the more you will resent him and the more you are going to draw away from sex.
Also, period sex is amazing, start off in the shower and move whereever you want from there. Having a towel on hand is always fantastic though! (dark colour towels wont show the blood so take that into account before you initiate it for the first time)

This is really sad that everyone is self centered and wants the other as a tool for gratifying one's urge becoming uncaring. I too have similar feelings and feel abandoned all alone. I do not know how males try to cheat on their wives callously or they simply like to use us and discard vehemently finally as if we are used things. Whenever I am horny he is not their and when he is here he becomes unapproachable giving this and that excuse. Kind of standoffishness prevails between us. I finger my organ to cool my libido. I understand your position. There are too many advisors and most of their advices are impractical since they cannot exactly sense the predicament we are hemmed in.

I may be a guy, but I too am controlled by my wife. I hate it, she only wants it when she is horny, what about my horny? No, I have to take care of that and I'm sick of it. I don't like the control on either side. When one is horny, the other should be sympathetic to the others needs. Unfortunately, some feel the need to control others instead of being there for them. I fulfill her needs, but she could care less about mine, so I too know the feeling of being someones tool. As soon as she gets off, she's done whether I am or not. She doesn't give bj's or handjobs- that's, "My Problem to Deal With!"