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    Quote Originally Posted by Tod121 View Post
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    Good ideas, I'll give them a try next time, just struggling with fatigue right now (partly due to the increase in bedroom activities).
    Tod, I know where you're coming from - my gf has become an "oxytocin junky" and some days the only thing that keeps me going is an energy drink called "5-Hr Energy" and inspiration from Warren Zevon: "I'll sleep when I'm dead."

    The energy drink is aptly-named and really works without a caffeine buzz;
    ...and Warren Zevon's dead...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Texasred View Post
    Tod, I know where you're coming from - my gf has become an "oxytocin junky" and some days the only thing that keeps me going is an energy drink called "5-Hr Energy" and inspiration from Warren Zevon: "I'll sleep when I'm dead."

    The energy drink is aptly-named and really works without a caffeine buzz;
    ...and Warren Zevon's dead...
    I guess there are worse ways to go.
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    Quote Originally Posted by WildChild View Post
    I guess there are worse ways to go.
    LOL!
    Almost any other way would be worse!
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    Update... my wife has now told me she has bought some new sexy lingerie, a DVD AND "something to play with"!! I was quite shocked but turned on when she told me...I have to wait until next week when Im off work to find out what she has bought. She is now playing it cool but I cant wait to see how this all kicks off next week!!

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    Default A change in my wife's level of sexual interests - All good?

    My wife has always shown a distinct lack of interest in sex on TV, if a sexy scene came on she would turn it over ASAP (a bit like a parent may do). So I am quite surprised when recently she has recorded or rented films that are not porn but are very sexually orientated (Basic instinct, Eyes wide shut type of films). I noticed she had looked at some porn films to order off the internet and was very curious when I cheekily commented that a film I choose to rent the other day had a lack of "action" in she said she would choose the next film. My Wife has now told me she has ordered some lingerie, DVD and something to play with. This is very exciting BUT also very different to how she used to behave.
    I always thought MOST women preferred reading naughty stories than watching it on a screen, how do I test her interest further without looking like a pervert or pressing her too far, I am thinking of showing her some porn that I have ranging from straight 1on1, lesbian, group sex and even solo girl masturbation? She did get cross with me the other day when I playfully covered her eyes during a lesbian scene on a Liam Neeson film and continued to watch with interest.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phil View Post
    I have some advice for you, go out and buy her a rabbit. It will show her you love her and your open to new ideas. Secondly, a rabbit has the potential to greatly increase you're sex life. It will not replace your penis but will actually increase how often you have sex. The rabbit is great in warming her up for intercourse. She will have extremely strong orgasms but nothing can replace your . It is extremely hot watching a girl writhing in estacy while you plunge in her rabbit.

    My spouse had similar changes in her drive in the last year. It temporary I think so take advantage of the situation and enjoy yourself.
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    Well, as I mentioned my wife bought new lingerie, porn DVD and a vibrator BUT she showed NO INTEREST at all when I had the day off work and the kids were at school, I imagined all sorts of things leading up to the day but nothing happend! Its been a month now since her things arrived in the post, she did grab her vibrator during sex the other day and we both used it on her which I thought was very new and exciting but I hinted another day about using it again and she just smiled and basically ignored me. I am aware not to push and to let things "just happen" but also want to show interest and encouragement so I suggested the other day that we use her toy again and this time she told me it was too noisey, I told her I didnt think so (and indeed the website where it was bought from say it is very quite) but we continued without it. Also a couple of times now I suggested that we have a look at her DVD and she just tells me no because the kids are upstairs in bed; the kids are going to be around if I am about, so I dont know when my wife imagined US being able to play. I start to think that despite originally asking her if her delivery of "stuff" was for us or her and she told me is was for us that actually she is just counting the days to the end of the summer holidays to be over and the kids are back at school so she can whack on the DVD with toy in hand and go for it. Dont get me wrong she is very welcome to go for it (lucky her having the "me" time to do it) but it frustrates me that she tells me she has bought these things and now I have no involvment.
    What do you think?

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    I think its time to take this in another direction. Check out the Welcomed Consensus site and a few of books. Start with, One Hour Orgasm,Extended Massive Orgasm and The Art of Sexual Ecstasy. Start educating yourself on taking sex to a new level physically, emotionally and spiritually. Look into tantra, if you are close to any good sized city there is very likely some tantric group you can plug into. Check your local meetups on yahoo.

    Don't rely on her doing it all. Toys are all very well and good but there are other ways to bring you closer and create an amazing sex life now that she has her libido back. Don't fall back on what lost her interest in the first place. Make it about connection, not just sex. Add some fun and some teasing to your lives and some romance.
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    As I said in your other thread that goes over much of the same ground, but not so far back, she may be trying to find her libido. It seems to come and go. Your threads should be combined.
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