Swallowing Problems

**Krazy_glu3** · 06-09-2011 12:45 PM

A few years back me and my husband popped each others 'blow job cherry'. He wanted me swallow, and since I never had done it before, I thought that I should give it a try. I managed to be able to handle it. Then the next time, I didnt do so well. I tried my hardest not to gag. It wasnt because of the amount, but more mental or something. The temperature gets to me too.. Its not cold, and its not hot.. Its kind of luke warm. I cant stand luke warm liquids. For some reason I just find it disgusting, like drinking room temperature water - I cant do it.
Well last night I thought that, since its been about 2 years or so, I'd give it another try for him. I know how guys seem to love it when a girl swallows. So when he came, halfway thru it I totally gagged, and I'm SO happy I didnt make the gag noise, or actually throw up. Sadly though, my husband saw me gag.. haha. Not sexy. He texted me today from work and said that I didnt have to try to swallow anymore because he saw me actually gag on it, and said its fine if I dont. I've told him multiple times before that something about it just... gets to me, mostly the temperature. I guess he had to SEE it before believing it. Hah, now he knows I'm not lying!
But I still want to make it great. Is there any other alternative that guys like? I know they prefer the nice warm place to let it all out, but apparently I just cant do it in my mouth, and already having two toddlers, I'm NOT letting in the other warm place. When I give him blow jobs, most of the times he's laying on his back, so I'm not sure if just letting it go on ME will work.. I'm sure it will end up coming back on him. ha.
Does anyone have some good ideas to substitute, since I cant have it in my mouth? What are yalls tricks? I want to make it amazing every time, and gagging isnt amazing.. in my opinion. Haha. Thanks in advance for any advice. :]

**WildChild** · 06-09-2011 12:53 PM

You can let him cum in your mouth and let it just flow out, you don't have to swallow it.
Not clear what you mean by, "and already having two toddlers, I'm NOT letting in the other warm place."

**Thomas Hepburn** · 06-09-2011 01:19 PM

You could let him cum over your face. It's true, us guys do like to "give" the parcel to you girls when we come. But most caring guys would never insist their girl swallows, that's just unfair.

**WildChild** · 06-09-2011 01:31 PM

Originally Posted by Thomas Hepburn

You could let him cum over your face. It's true, us guys do like to "give" the parcel to you girls when we come. But most caring guys would never insist their girl swallows, that's just unfair.

A lot of women do not like the whole cum in your face thing. Porn has made this a real fad, but just try a bit in your eye and see what that's like - I can guarantee that you won't like it. I'll take it just about anyplace and I have no problem swallowing (although a smoker's cum burns like all get out) but I won't do the on the face thing, not purposely.

**rcoreyus** · 06-09-2011 01:36 PM

Find out what he really likes. Swallowing matters to some men, not to others. Finishing in your mouth matters to some men, not others. Some like to finish on a woman's face, some on breasts, others again it doesn't matter. Try to talk to him and find out what really matters to him and make sure you aren't working hard to do something he doesn't care about.

Is he willing to to everything you want in bed?

**Seeker_Advice** · 06-09-2011 02:34 PM

Why does it matter if he is willing to try everything she wants? This isn't about him, it's about her wanting to please him.

Like WC, I'm not a big fan of my SO receiving a facial, but that's just me. To each their own. How about letting him cum on your breasts? A lot of men seem to enjoy that too.

**Krazy_glu3** · 06-09-2011 02:57 PM

I'm pretty sure getting it in my eye will hurt like no tomorrow, haha. It hurts when I get water in my eyes in the shower!! Hahaha. I'd be fine with it on my body, since thats what do anyways when I'm on bottom. But if I'm on top and he's laying down, I'm thinking it'll fall right back down on him.. I'm not sure how much he'd love that. I guess I could try that next.. Just hovering my body above him and letting him finish? Hopefully not getting it all over the bed. (we usually have a towel laid down, or nearby to make sure we dont ruin the sheets) He never MAKES me swallow, he will suggest it. I guess he likes that, but after seeing me totally gag last night.. I think he realizes that I wasnt joking when I said I cant handle it. But I tried again for him, without him asking. Just didnt work out. I tried to have it in my mouth, but again... something weird... and had a mini gag.. thats when I was like 'nope.. cant be in my mouth'. Sucks, but I guess I'll just try to aim at my breasts like said.

WildChild - I meant my the two warm places I have (excluding anus. Thats a definite no for me) my vagina and mouth. Seeing as I have two kids already, I'm not letting him cum inside my vagina and risk having another kid. Thats what I was meaning.

rcoreyus - Yes he does. And Seeker is right, its about me pleasing him. He always makes me feel great, and I want to return the favor.

**WildChild** · 06-09-2011 03:16 PM

I strongly urge you to get down to Planned Parenthood and get a NON hormonal IUD. You are married, you have children, intercourse should not be off the list.

**rcoreyus** · 06-09-2011 06:15 PM

I brought up the question of whether he does things to please you to try to understand if this was a one-sided relationship. If one person is always trying to please the other, but they are not reciprocating, then I think there is a problem. If your partner is doing their best to please you, then I think its reasonable to make a real effort for them.

I do think its worth understanding what he really likes, and experimenting with different things that you both might enjoy.

**ItsASecret** · 06-09-2011 06:18 PM

Sometimes a woman just cannot do it. I have tried many times as well, I know I do not have to swallow but I at least try to have him finish in my mouth. However the attempts have not been successful. The taste, the temperature as you say, the shooting (whether it be on the inside of the cheek or on the tongue), and hardest of all to overcome...the texture, all contribute to my inability to not gag. It is not nice to know that you gag even when you are giving it an honest try, but sometimes that gag just cannot be helped. I think the fact that you are at the very least trying even with the bad experiences shows a lot for him. You both know you do not have swallow but at least trying speaks volumes in you wanting to please him.