I might be a sex addict

**chaya** · 06-10-2011 06:02 PM

Originally Posted by MarkT

If it doesn't impact your life in a negative way, I don't see a problem with it at all. 3 days for me might as well be an eternity as well. My wife can go for a year or longer, it's torture to be in this situation. Things are getting better though. I wouldn't put much faith in any online testing. Might ask your doctor about it, he/she might suggest something to help your concentration.

A year without sex? Before I met my husband I could have gone for the rest of my life without it. He awakened something in me and made my life worth living.

Has anyone that has taken the test have anything to say about it? As far as talking to a doctor about my sex life, I could never bring myself to do that no matter how bad it got. The only reason I can talk about it here is the anonymity.

**ItsASecret** · 06-10-2011 06:09 PM

Honestly the doctor would not really care, I mean that in the sense of it not being anything new or surprising to them. Patients go into the office all the time asking what is wrong, how things can be improved, what could be done. Psychologists and psychiatrists are the same way. It is near impossible to surprise a general doctor with sex questions, an ER doc with their emergency patients are constantly surprised however lol.

**jns** · 06-10-2011 06:23 PM

Originally Posted by chaya

I just completed an online "Women's Sexual Addiction Screening Test". I answered 6 of the questions yes.

At the end of the test the program suggested I attend a 12 step support program like SAA, SA or SCA, and consider a consultation with a counselor or professional. I know I have a higher sex drive/desire than my husband but I didn't think I was addicted.

I haven't had sex for 10 days, I was in the hospital in pain 2 days ago, now that I'm feeling better I'm so horny I even tried masturbating. The doctor told me no sex until he clears me after my followup examination.

Are these tests accurate? Should I be concerned that this will affect my marriage?

Originally Posted by WildChild

Sweetie, Just where did you find this survey or screening test? You or I could create one and put it on line. Magazines often have things like this that have nothing to do with the real world of addiction treatment and everything to do with selling their product or site.

I doubt very much that you are a sex addict. Rather you are woman with a healthily normal sex drive. Unfortunately there really aren't too many women who do have a healthily normal drive.

Originally Posted by chaya

A year without sex? Before I met my husband I could have gone for the rest of my life without it. He awakened something in me and made my life worth living.

chaya, you are normal when it comes to sex drive. Before having sex in a loving relationship with your then bf, you had never had a sexual encounter that released a chemical cocktail in your head. After those first few times with him, you were hooked. This is part of the bonding process. Enjoy the ride. Some people never get to enjoy sex so completely.

**Texinator** · 06-10-2011 08:57 PM

Originally Posted by chaya

The thing that worries me most about this high sex drive is that I get horny if I don't have sex for 3 days and when I'm horny I can't think of anything else except sex. It is hard for me to study, do house work or almost anything. My sister says it's my hormones taking over, she's probably right.

That's not an addiction. You just like sex a great deal, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

**Beautiful Disaster** · 06-10-2011 10:13 PM

From what I can gather, nothing about your situation screams "addiction". As I said originally, being horny can simply be a result of hormones. I think you have a very healthy sex drive.

**WildChild** · 06-10-2011 11:13 PM

Originally Posted by chaya

The thing that worries me most about this high sex drive is that I get horny if I don't have sex for 3 days and when I'm horny I can't think of anything else except sex. It is hard for me to study, do house work or almost anything.

Sweetie, I'm nearly 54 and have been sexually active for 40 years, I have a high drive, this sounds perfectly normal to me.