squirting but nor orgasm

**hessi** · 06-11-2011 01:55 PM

Me and my boyfriend are together since 9 months and also sexually active since then. He is my second partner and before him i had just a couple of time sexual experience. We love and trust each other so much but the problem is: i still can not reach orgasm.
First i was feeling like i really have to pee when he touches a certain point; then i got over it. Then our sex become better than before.
When he touches that point now, i make all the bed wet; and i am not exaggerating, it can be as much as couple of glasses.I enjoy it a lot but it doesnt change the fact that i cant orgasm.
He did everything he can do and still does: different positions, with the tongue, fingers...When he touches the front wall with his fingers i feel like it is "too much" and i want to stop him somehow...
This problem effects our relationship too, we are both thinking that we can not give each other what we deserve.
I really want to hear some suggestions.

**Master Bruh** · 06-11-2011 06:43 PM

Ok have you ever had an orgasm? Cause a lot of times that feeling or pee is the moment before you have to orgasm. Now if your squirting and you like it you might've just had one. No offense but some girls dont know if they've had one so just double checking.

**hessi** · 06-12-2011 12:03 PM

is it something that you dont even realize? no i havent, thats the problem:/

**waya** · 06-12-2011 12:43 PM

It's possible not to realize you're having an orgasm. Especially if it's what I call an orgasm wave, an extended period of very heightened sensation. Can you describe what it feels like when you squirt?

**WildChild** · 06-12-2011 03:11 PM

If you have a lot going on while engaged in sex, the orgasm really can lost in the shuffle. This is why I and many women, don't like to give a blow job while we are receiving oral sex from a man (69). We are so focused on what we are doing that we can't be aware of what we are feeling. Could this be a part of what you are dealing with? What are you doing when you ejaculate? What else is going on?

I just posted this advice on another thread and will say it here too; you need to own your own arousal and orgasm. Learn to bring yourself to orgasm, then you can recognize it and you can better guide your partner to getting you there. In general when a woman ejaculates, she has had one type of orgasm but there are other kinds of orgasm. You have lots of time to explore them all.

Have fun. Many women never get to the point of being able to ejaculate.

**hessi** · 06-16-2011 12:37 PM

Originally Posted by waya

It's possible not to realize you're having an orgasm. Especially if it's what I call an orgasm wave, an extended period of very heightened sensation. Can you describe what it feels like when you squirt?

that "orgasm wave" that you described, can really be what is going on with me. it is like, i feel something is happening for couple of minutes, really high feelings, but it is like never reaching an end.
i was thinking orgasm is a matter of couple of seconds...isnt it what i think it is?

**hessi** · 06-16-2011 12:43 PM

yes, thats completely true by me too. i never enjoy 69.(that relieved me a little to know that i am not the only one)
i also think i have problems with focusing even if i am the only one who receives oral.69 makes it just impossible.

like i explained in the other post, i really feel some high feelings, but they dont reach an end and when everything is finished; i feel a really fast heart beat maybe but i dont feel a complete satisfaction.

and i wanted to ask, is it normal that i feel that its "too much" while fingering... i manage to not to stop him when i am really relaxed. this happened maybe 2 times but when i dont stop it just continues for a long time and it also doesnt lead to something

**WildChild** · 06-16-2011 02:32 PM

Originally Posted by hessi

that "orgasm wave" that you described, can really be what is going on with me. it is like, i feel something is happening for couple of minutes, really high feelings, but it is like never reaching an end.
i was thinking orgasm is a matter of couple of seconds...isnt it what i think it is?

Orgasm can be seconds or it can go on for an extended time, rising in intensity and falling and rising again.

**oxy-moron** · 06-16-2011 03:36 PM

A couple of things you can try- always start off with a body massage- this will raise your Oxytocin levels and this is the hormone associated with orgasm contractions.
This will build up over weeks so you will have to do it for a while.
The other thing is to incorporate more clitoral stimulation.
If you lie on your stomach and have him rub his thumb over the front wall while his first and second fingers rub your clit. He can roll his thumb slightly while going in and out.
This seems to give a stronger Orgasm than either stimulation by itself.

**hessi** · 06-19-2011 03:27 PM

thanks for all answers and advices.

the thing i still really want to know,
what i always expected from the orgasm that... the vagina gets really tight and also the man feels it??

i never had such a thing. is there a special method for it? does it happen every time?
i'd appreciate some comments...