Thread: Delayed female ejaculation after g-spot stimulation?

Something happened last night with my girlfriend we're not sure about, and has her worried and scared...and a little embarrassed. Not sure if age matters, but we're in our 40's.

I'm able to find her g-spot consistently. (This is pretty new for her, as I guess before it had only happened once or twice in an incidental contact kind of way). She'd described the well known feelings of "needing to pee", and feeling a "pressure". I'd thought she might very well be capable of ejaculating, so we began to discuss the possibility. I did some research on the right way s to help her "release" and let go in hopes of helping her ejaculate.

Last weekend, she was right on the brink. It was driving her crazy, but she just couldn't relax enough or let go enough for it to happen.

Then last night. I was stimulating her into multiple and powerful orgasms that seemed to get closer and closer until they seemed to blend into one long one. Getting her to ejaculate was not even the goal, I was just trying to drive her crazy and bring her to multiple orgasms. It was working, as it usually does with her.

Her last orgasm, she couldn't really describe, other than extremely intense, and she couldn't be sure if it was just one long powerful one, or almost like a continual string of orgasms over the course of several minutes. She said something to the effect of it was her "best orgasm ever".

I did notice a few minutes prior to this, that while she was somewhat "less wet" inside than is normal for her, I noticed an awful lot of wetness, to the point of completely soaking my hand. I did not feel or notice her ejaculate, but we discussed it, and figured it must have happened to some degree.

About 10 minutes later, we are downstairs, sitting down. She's sitting on the edge of her chair, leaning forward a bit, and facing me. There was a moment that I could have sworn I heard something dripping and hitting the floor. I dismissed it until a few moments later when she got this very strange look on her face, covered her face with her hand. I asked what it was. She said she just had this huge feeling of a "woosh" (in her words), or release. A few moments later, she looked even more bewildered, and said "oh my god", got up, and ran into the bathroom.

I started to suspect what was going on, though my initial reaction was fear that for some crazy reason she was bleeding. I checked the carpeted area where we were sitting for blood, but there was none. It was just a little wet. Not sure if it was water from the hot tub earlier, or something from her. But I knew I heard something dripping.

She came back out a couple minutes later, very scared and confused. She said she'd felt the "woosh" feeling, and then things just started "gushing". She said it was running down her leg as she ran to the bathroom, and by her feeling (and demonstration with a drink) she said she somehow let go of about a 1/4 to 1/2 cup of fluid. Also said she thought it was clear when she looked in the bathroom.

Now, this initially freaked us both out a bit. I'd never heard of such a thing as a delayed ejaculation in a woman. I mean, the sex was over, and we were just sitting there having a nice conversation. But I could come up with no other explanation, and neither could she. I'm thinking there's a possibility she just lost bladder control, as I guess can happen with some women after crazy, intense sex and orgasms, but she indicated the fluid was clear. Either way, (and yes, I know loss of bladder could be embarrassing for anyone), I feel it was an awesome thing for her to have gotten to that point no matter what it was. I truly do not care one iota if it was pee, and want to reassure her of that. Nothing to feel embarrassed about.

I could only come to the conclusion that she was able to earlier (in bed) ejaculate, but a great deal of the liquid must have "reverted" (if that's the right term), or possibly have left her urethra, and entered her vaginal canal? Or somehow have just not quite released and stayed inside of her until she became more relaxed. And minutes later after she truly relaxed it finally "let go"?

She also later felt a "pain" described as a deep down vague non-burning pain in the area above her pubic bone, but in deeper. We've only briefly talked since as she had to run out this morning, but she still had this vague pain. I'm hoping to have some answers later when she returns. She did say she was trying to "let go" and "push" against the natural instinct to "draw in", and I'm wondering if maybe she just "pushed" things too hard?

Any insight would be great. I think she's either there and in fact did ejaculate, or is so close to the brink of ejaculating that I don't want to mess this up for her by some weird concern that something is "wrong".

I did an extensive search on the internet, and while I found some info on delayed female ejaculation, there were no specifics or great deal of info.

I've done something like that. I've recently learned how to ejaculate and once or twice after everything was over and I was doing other things, more has come out.

It sounds like what you are doing stimulation wise is generating fluid build up but she is not relaxed enough to eject it at the time. She may have to learn to bear down and eject the fluid at the time of orgasm but probably doesn't feel comfortable with doing this.
Maybe practise in the bathroom.
Also you may have to remove your fingers at the time of orgasm.
You may be better off at another site google literotica- Mr G How to.
He will answer questions.
Good luck

Originally Posted by oxy-moron

It sounds like what you are doing stimulation wise is generating fluid build up but she is not relaxed enough to eject it at the time. She may have to learn to bear down and eject the fluid at the time of orgasm but probably doesn't feel comfortable with doing this.
Maybe practise in the bathroom.
Also you may have to remove your fingers at the time of orgasm.
You may be better off at another site google literotica- Mr G How to.
He will answer questions.
Good luck

I think you're right. I did some research, and we discussed it and analyzed it. We both now feel comfortable that "this" (ejaculation) has happend for her for the first time, and other than being a little freaked out about when and how it happened, we're both very happy for her (and us) it did. Her "fears" did not materialize, and I believe she'll be able to continually relax more and more as we continue to explore this for her. She did say it was the most amazing orgasm of her life, and she definately wants more of the same. She also seemed relieved, and the embarrassment faded after I did some research and found out it was not entirely uncommon to happen this way, and when I continued to tell her how happy I was for her, and congratulated her on being able to make it happen and enjoy that experience.

I swear, the entire experience was as awesome for me as it was for her. I've experienced a woman before who could do this, but experiencing her "first" with her, and being able to accomplish that with her as a "team" is immensely satisfying.