Blow jobs, but can't swallow.
i love to give my partner blowjobs, especially when he shoves his big member in my mouth, but when he is ready to blow, I can't swallow. I get all stiff and dont wanna go near it. Even when i see the used condom, i start to gag, and can't stand the look of cum.
I don't get how other women can swallow and love it. I throw up just looking at cum.
What is wrong? HELP!
Well, you won't get anywhere with a negative attitude. A positive loving enthusiastic attitude is what you need.
Close your eyes. Have him pull out and cum into your mouth from a short distance, enthusiastically swallow it, then eagerly lick his penis clean. I generally put my head back with my mouth wide open as possible so that he gets all his cum into my mouth and none anywhere else. Don't be thinking about the look, taste or texture. Be thinking about how much you want to succeed and how you're not going to let anything get in the way of your success. Mind over matter. If you gag the first few times you do this, so what, that's okay. No big deal. He'll understand. You'll get the hang of it and you will no longer gag. And then you'll realize that cum is not bad at all. In fact, it's quite good. I myself think the thicker and saltier it is, the better. But there's no way to control that. It's subtly different every time. That's part of the fun.
Last edited by tinyclitt; 06-13-2011 at 11:45 PM.
I think you aren't that unusual, some women just can't stand it. Does it matter to him (for some men this is all important, for others not at all).
I've never given a BJ. I would like to try it with my husband BUT when the time comes, I would have to be out of the way. If any hit me in the mouth or face I'm sure I would throw up.
Zen is more of an attitude than a belief.
There is nothing "Wrong" with you. Many girls hate it, many (like me) can deal with it even though they dislike it, and some apparently actually do like it.
If he's pressuring you, tell him to back off.
Part of the problem may well be attitude and approach. There are some things in this post that bother me. The statement that, "he shoves" his penis into your mouth is one. The contrast between "loving" to give a bj but gagging and wanting to throw up just seeing his cum, seems a bit contradictory.Originally Posted by aburf19
In general when giving a bj you should be in control, there shouldn't be any shoving. You need to do what you are willing to do and then move on to something else.
With a previous lover I did a lot of bjs and almost always swallowed. My present lover is much more giving to me but I don't do many for him and when I do I rarely swallow because he is a smoker and a heavy smoker's cum will burn your mouth and throat and give you heartburn for a day or more. He knows that this is the reason. That is my decision and choice. If there was an attempt to force this, that would be the end of that activity.
Why do you find a man's ejaculate so repellent?
We can only learn to love by loving. - Iris Mudoch, British writer
As Wc says, don't swallow if you don't really want to. As long as you are in control (most men prefer their girls to be in control when this is occuring). Maybe try it and if you don't like it tell him and let him come on your face or breasts etc. The important point that tinyclitt makes is that you show enthusiasm for his ejaculate and penis.This we love! It's much easier for you ladies to get us to come if you are eagerly waiting for it. We are sometimes self conscious of our own cum and we need to be assured that you won't take a hike the minute you see our intimate juices.
Forgot to add.... also, when he's finished it's a nice touch to clear up for him. My g/f did this first time I ejaculated and I've never forgotten that. Gently stretch the shaft up a couple of times so that his penis is clear, then wipe the area. He will love this, and you, for doing it.
Nothing is wrong! Not everyone is a cum junkie. I have an extremely active and varied sex life with my partner but even after all these years and no matter how much I'd love to swallow - I can't. I know (and have seen) women who love the stuff and don't spill a drop but once I know his orgasm is imminent I have to get it out of my mouth. No matter how hard I try, and how much I love him and love sex with him, I can't do it. I don't mind it on my face, my hands or anywhere on my body, just not in my mouth. I can't explain it and it's not really an issue but it does annoy me!
hey
ive stopped liking the taste of cum. I don't swollow anymore. I also don't like the taste of pubic hair in my mouth yuck. not sexy at all trim up guys.
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