Are my hands too soft?

**obnoxious** · 06-22-2011 07:02 PM

OK, so maybe i'm making a big deal out of this, but I know that women like to be fingered. But here's the thing, I don't have "manly" hands. The palms of my hands are really soft - and I don't even use lotion regularly. But I've been told my several (surprised) people after handshakes that I have really soft hands. Even most girls have rougher hands than me!

So is this a bad thing when it comes to fingering a woman's vagina/clit, or massaging her breast/body???

Should I start to look for a job in manual labor?

**kristalyn_04** · 06-22-2011 07:12 PM

I don't think hands are a huge factor for most women (just like with any other physical trait). Sure, women have preferences, but unless she is really shallow it won't have any bearing on a woman being willing to get to know you and want to be in a relationship with you.

**jns** · 06-22-2011 07:30 PM

From my experience, most women do not like a lot of roughness around their more tender parts. Yes, sufficient strength if you are giving a back massage or trying to work out the kinks of a knotted muscle, but they like a much lighter touch around their erogenous zones. That is not to say that some don't like a heavier touch, they may, but I have not been with such women. I have to be careful about having too heavy of a touch. You should be fine.

**waya** · 06-22-2011 07:32 PM

Actually I would think that would be a good thing when it comes to pleasing a woman. Or at least I know a lot of women who would think so because some men have a hard time being gentle enough with our tender parts.

**kristalyn_04** · 06-22-2011 07:39 PM

I think being gentle and the texture of a man's hands are two different things, though. A man can have rough hands but still be gentle with the way he uses them, and likewise a man with softer hands can be too forceful with them.

**waya** · 06-22-2011 07:46 PM

Well yes but a man with softer hands could probably use a little more pressure without it being painful

**Texasred** · 06-22-2011 10:23 PM

Or you could exercise some, without wearing those gloves that some affect.
Doing things with your hands will strengthen them, toughen them, and working out will lean you out all over - not just your hands.
Can't hurt.

**lizzardb63** · 07-01-2011 03:16 PM

Its nice to not have someone down there with caluses. It can be rough and scratchy. Count your blessings!

**WildChild** · 07-01-2011 03:20 PM

I Work with my hands and they aren't super soft. I like strong hands but that can mean a bit rough. We have a little habit that when the man in my life comes over I will massage lotion into his hands for him (and me).