Silent sex

**chaya** · 07-03-2011 07:05 PM

My sister has been staying with us for over a week and will be here for some time to come. She sleeps in the guest room, right next to our bedroom. My husband is shy about her hearing us when we have sex so I have been trying to stay silent but sometimes I can't. During climax I always start moaning and sometimes with an intense orgasm I almost scream.

Because of this, hubby is getting reluctant to have sex, he cautions me before we start to please be quite. If I yell out the first time, he don't want to do it a second time. I try to be quiet but I can't help it. Is there any way, short of gagging me, to keep quite? Am I the only one that has this problem?

**kristalyn_04** · 07-03-2011 07:14 PM

It's probably possible to train yourself, but I've never been much of a noise-maker to begin with, so... idk the only thing I can really think of is to put something over your mouth before you orgasm (but obviously leave your nose uncovered so you can breathe).

Is your sister a light or heavy sleeper? Maybe you could just wait until you know she's sound asleep? Or can you ask her to take the couch a few nights a week, perhaps she would understand.

**WildChild** · 07-03-2011 07:26 PM

Try biting the corner of a pillow.

**waya** · 07-03-2011 10:01 PM

I second the pillow-biting

**Hopeless Dork** · 07-04-2011 02:27 AM

You could try shaking up your sex routine and do it at a different time of day when your sister is out of the house (if she goes out) with other friends/family etc, doing it in the shower, turning the tv or radio up really loud at bedtime, etc..

I am loud during sex... but I can mostlycontrol it when I have to, but even still sometimes its almost involuntary when a louder noise escapes me. If we have company some of the things that have helped me to be quiet are:

Staying aware in the moment to keep it down...
Sucking my thumb or other fingers...
Sucking his shoulders/biting down softly on his shoulders
Kissing him/sucking down on his lip, letting my sounds escape more softly through my breath
Turning my head to the side and pushing my mouth into a pillow
Biting down on the blankets

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-04-2011 03:00 AM

Pretty much I was thinking like HD except given she is staying with you, she's with you and if not, if she was to go out on her own he would be at work more than likely.

Biting the pillow is the only thing to do, unfortunately you have to use your mind power with this, imagine she can hear you and control, so she can't it's actually very exciting to do this, as you don't want to get caught...We've done with with neighbours next door whilst outside let alone what else throughout my life time it's just a mind over matter thing, you can't and so, more than likely it will turn you on more and has turned you on more....

**chaya** · 07-04-2011 03:12 AM

I asked sis last night if she ever heard us in the bedroom. She said yes, which immediately made me blush. Then she said she tries not to listen because it makes her horny. So I told her to stay in the hot tub for a while because I was going upstairs. She said to close the window because she could hear me from down here too. If my husband ever heard that my sex life would be zero until she left.

Thanks for all the suggestions, I'll try some of them but I'm usually on top and that makes it harder. Last night I tried concentrating on being quite, I was quiet but it was the worst sex. If I keep that up I'll have to learn how to fake it.

**Mes T** · 07-04-2011 03:41 AM

Hmm I don't know if quiet necessarily has to mean less enjoyable. Being quiet during sex is more of a "hush let's not get caught ooh look how naughty we are!" kind of thing... not "well darlin I'm not really enjoying myself soooo I'm going to moan quieter". At least, it doesn't have to be like that!

I find it a little odd that your sis actually said it made her horny... do you reckon she said that to sort of "laugh it off" or did she mean it? In any case I think practicing more discrete sex is a valuable skill to learn. Who knows in what other circumstances you're going to find yourself getting down and dirty. In a public place somewhere, down an alley against a wall?

Wouldn't you want your husband to trust you enough to be sneaky and discrete, rather than "HEY look at me people of the earth, I'm having sexxxxxxxx"?

Some things, in some instances, really are better when they're between two people and not in some way shared with others. For example you wouldn't have a huge fight with your husband in front of your sister, would you? I think it's sort of like that.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-04-2011 06:58 AM

I also don't like your sister's comment.... Not something a sister should say...

And, to add close the windows.. She should be silent....

Sorry.... You are married there is nothing wrong with being you and trying to quieten there is something wrong with your sister fantasizing.....not on your husband but her own being and in saying that....

You need to ask her for space and let her know you are married you love her being there but you also need husband and wife time....

Simply put...Hot tub didn't seem to work it was still telling you what to do in your house