Thread: Premature Ejaculations

My boyfriend and I have recently had a few month break (it wasn't by choice, but more of distance thing, since I wasn't around for about 6 months). In that period I know for a fact that he did not have any female contact (although I wasn't as faithful myself).
Now, him and I never really had that great of a sex life. But it was manageable and sometimes satisfying. However now that we are back in each other's lives he only lasts about 2 - 3 minutes before finishing. It doesn't matter if there is foreplay involved or not.
It is sometimes hard to hide my disappointment, so we have had a couple of fights concerning this.
He knows he has a problem, but neither of us know how to fight with it.
So any suggestions will be greatly appreciated!

I can suggest three options that work.

First you can buy him a ring. Once he gets hard he should push it to the base of his penis. This will prevent ejaculation.

Second you can buy him some delay cream which will desensitize his penis. Make sure that you pull his skin way back and get the cream all over his glans.

Lastly and my favorite, blow him till he comes the first time. Then harden him up and enjoy. Have sex several times if necessary until you receive the bone shaking multiple orgasms you deserve. Eventully he will learn to control his orgasm (as I have) until he can climax with you. I have a couple of other suggestions, but these three should be enough.

Perhaps he has some mixed feelings about you not being "faithful" while on your 6 month break. It could bother him, causing him to have a premature problem. Maybe there is just too much pressure on him, that he can't concentrate on controlling his ejaculation. I would try the suggestions above, but I would also consider his feelings on the subject. I know it can be disappointing (I dated a premature ejeculator for 4 years), but sex is a two way street and it means working on it together until you find what works for you both.

He can also try clamping down on his pelvic floor muscles jut before Orgasm. ( The ones that stop urine flow)
If he does this he will get the sensation of Orgasm without ejaculation. He wont get the releif feeling though and his penis will stay hard.
If he is young he should be able to come again.

My only warning about the control creams or condoms with desensitizer is they tend to really numb a guy more than he or you may want, and it removes a lot of the pleasure for the guy. I used "extend pleasure" condoms once thinking it would be great for her, but I literally could not feel anything within a few seconds. Yes, I lasted super long, but it drained the pleasure out of it...for her too since, after a while, I was basically just a human sex toy. Maybe something to keep in mind.

ALso- those numbing creams if not rubbed in enough, can get on her, making her numb also... not fun for either!

If you continue to find it hard to hide your disappointment, this will cause him even more stress, and a more permanent break (one based on his choice, not distance) is in your near future.

My husband sometimes comes in 30 seconds...and sometimes can go a half an hour, but he always makes sure I'm satisfied first. Maybe a mutual oral session...you do him first, then he does you, then he's ready for a second time, and he'll last longer. But if you continue to make him feel like a bad guy for being so excited that he climaxes quickly, he'll soon be out the door for good.

I've been having this problem for about a year now. I'm not sure why it suddenly showed up, but it can be really annoying at times. My wife is really understanding, and we always get her off somehow, but I used to make her orgasm from penetration a lot and now I just don't last long enough to do it. So then we'd finish her off with oral/manual stimulation. Now we're trying to get her off BEFORE the intercourse instead. This helps build her up, and she's more likely to orgasm during penetration, even if it lasts only a couple minutes.

There was one time I literally lasted eight seconds though. It'd be hilarious if it were some one else lol. Two strokes, and suddenly I was done. I was like "WTF? Lame!" But it is what it is. Hmmm, for the heck of it, I'll provide my theory on why my problem started.

I'm a smoker and I stopped working out when my wife and I moved in together. Because of these reasons, my stamina suddenly dipped quite drastically. Instead of going 10 minutes straight without resting, I was suddenly getting exhausted after 3-4 minutes. I think my body accounted for this and started ejaculating earlier because, if I didn't, then I simply didn't get off. That's just a theory! I'm starting to get in better shape again, so I'm hoping that'll fix it.

The more I have sex, the longer I last, every day no problem, if it's been a week things are likely to be on a hair trigger, but not always.

Position makes a difference - if she's on top it's always harder for me to last, but then she cums quicker too.

Alcohol can slow you up, but beware of the dreaded "brewers droop" some get if they over do it.

There are also medical treatments: some so-called "male medical clinics" have what they claim are very effective solutions, and there is no doubt a psychological component to this as well, so if he can once get to lasting longer, he can stay that way.
Or just go for a second round!