Had First One Night Stand this Weekend

**KaWood1983** · 07-11-2011 07:33 AM

Hello all. First time post. I am 22 and bluntly just had my first night stand on Saturday night. All yesterday and now this morning I have been wrestling with it in my head. I am almost kicking myself because I never thought I would be one to do it and yet I let the alcohol get the best of me.

Perhaps even more so, he was only my second. I was with my previous BF for 5 years. I made him wait 3 years and now 2 weeks after a breakup here I am. Just so odd to know someone else was 'in' me.

I have to say on the converse, I was kind of exciting.

And protection was used for the intercourse.

**WildChild** · 07-11-2011 08:33 AM

Ok so you used protection, it was kind of exciting, did you enjoy it?
Not all sex is a fabulously emotionally connected experience, not even when you are in love.
So long as you act safely and aren't breaking any relationship agreements, there should be no cause for worry.

**Seeker_Advice** · 07-11-2011 11:06 AM

Did you say what you said in an effort to vent it or relieve yourself from guilt? Frankly, I don't think what you chose to do was "bad" (far be it from me to judge you). I do believe that protecting yourself from exposure to who knows what was a good idea.

Limited sexual contact with a person can be very exciting...

**rcoreyus** · 07-11-2011 12:40 PM

If you both enjoyed yourselves and too precautions, then great - no harm done. I see no reason two adults shouldn't enjoy this. If you didn't enjoy it, then put it down to experience and don't do it again.

FWIW, I have absolutely no negative feelings about people who have one night stands as long as both understand the situation and no one is being deceived in any way.

**lizzardb63** · 07-11-2011 01:31 PM

Don't beat yourself up about it. It's a learning experience! When my ex and I broke up, I slept with someone only 3 weeks later...yes I felt guilty, but heck! I was a single woman who had lots to learn!

It was exciting and thrilling! It was my first one night stand too...and I don't regret it! Enjoy your freedom!

**KaWood1983** · 07-11-2011 01:51 PM

Girls, thanks for the words. I am feeling a little better as the day goes on and I continue to get further from it. You are right I am a single lady now and so perhaps time to enjoy it. Was just such a shock and had me completely offguard, I just wasn't ready mentally or didn't know how to react to it.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-11-2011 03:25 PM

Your ticking all the boxes of being a WOMAN, whom owns her own body and mind

You made an assertive decision to do what you wanted and why not? It's your body, you are an Adult and you are single...

It's fun to be spontaneous, it's a little adventurous, the un-known and it's exciting and you used protection.. Smile...

You have to remember as well, you may have waited 2 years before you had sex with your then boyfriend, but you've had sex for 3 years, you become single, you have that "missing" instinct as well, and that new feeling of being single, put them together and it's not suprising at all that you made your own decision on something pertaining to self...mam....

It was a new experience and isn't that what life is about?

**Seeker_Advice** · 07-12-2011 11:19 AM

Ahhhhh! The wisdom of CW. Like so many others in here, it just makes you feel better about yourself after reading it... doesn't it?...and I'm a male.

**lizzardb63** · 07-12-2011 11:44 AM

Agreed Seeker!!

**KaWood1983** · 07-12-2011 12:59 PM

Each and every one of you is making me feel better. Thanks so much, appreciate it. It is barely a thought in my head anymore. Just be interesting how I react when a similar situation arises next time!