Can woman live with a man who can only give orgasm from oral sex?

**strong** · 07-15-2011 09:02 AM

Hi,

I met this single mom , after about a month , we have sex for the 1st time..

From that moment, I know that my penis was too small for her, it feel a bit loose, and she had no orgasm even when she's on top and we make love about 20 minutes (foreplay not count, i know the exact durations because it's about 5 songs on the TV before finaly we finish lol)

The thing is, she told me that she haven't got O yet..so I go down on her immediately and after about 5 or 8 minutes she finally got her O ...

The same thing happen in the morning, the morning sex, she got O after I go down on her ...

So the question is as the title said : Can woman live with a man who can only give orgasm from oral sex?

I mean, I started to like her, and i really like her 5 years old son ( jerry maguire thing hehehe ) , and I want this relationship build up..

and I dont mind if i had to go down on her every time we have sex... but can you women live with it ?

**Texinator** · 07-15-2011 09:17 AM

What does this have to do with penis size? The vagina is lined by muscles that can contract to accommodate even smaller penises, so unless you're absolutely microscopic - literally - there is no problem.

Many women have a difficult time achieving orgasm from intercourse alone, and many have the easiest time with oral sex. When you're having intercourse, you could try stimulating her manually with your fingers additionally and see if that makes a difference for her.

**strong** · 07-15-2011 10:00 AM

Originally Posted by Texinator

What does this have to do with penis size? The vagina is lined by muscles that can contract to accommodate even smaller penises, so unless you're absolutely microscopic - literally - there is no problem.

Many women have a difficult time achieving orgasm from intercourse alone, and many have the easiest time with oral sex. When you're having intercourse, you could try stimulating her manually with your fingers additionally and see if that makes a difference for her.

maybe i just have to see her 2 or 3 more times to see what happen to us before i post this question here ..... anyway, thanks

**Texinator** · 07-15-2011 10:16 AM

You could see her ten more times and she might not have an orgasm from intercourse. It's not about penis size. She may be more likely to have an orgasm as her feelings for you grow and she is even more turned on during sex, you may just have to experiment with different positions, and like I said, don't be afraid to have either one of you play with her clit a bit during intercourse.

**WildChild** · 07-15-2011 10:18 AM

We have done penis size to death. Unless yours is micro (and often not even then) penis size is not an issue. You both can increase your control and responsiveness by strengthening your muscles doing kegels. Many women have not learned to orgasm from intercourse. For many women it does take some time to adjust to a new lover as well. I am almost always more responsive after having sex several times with a new lover.

If you can get her right on the edge before you enter her she may very likely have multiple orgasms. Then you would be in clover.

**PinkySweet** · 07-15-2011 12:16 PM

My man is a large man, and hes good in bed, but even at that Ive never achieve a orgasm from intercourse. I get close but sometimes it just doesnt happen(and i dont blame him for it)... But he makes me feel great when he does oral and can make me orgasm.

**CHANDLERS WISH** · 07-15-2011 04:37 PM

You can not make a judgement based on your first sexual experience together..

There is chemistry there or else you wouldn't be having sex with her

But there is only lust at present not "love" a woman as she feels more comfortable with you "feels more" and as she falls more in love with you she "feels more"...

Instead of worrying whether or not you are good enough, big enough, as Tex said, our muscles tighten or loosen to accomodate any size but this is all new, you are new, she isn't focusing on trying to make it right, she's focusing on oh oh we are now doing it, worry about how you want your relationship to blossom in it's totality

PS: Spend a lot more time first with foreplay as well

**jns** · 07-15-2011 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by strong

Hi,

I met this single mom , after about a month , we have sex for the 1st time..

From that moment, I know that my penis was too small for her, it feel a bit loose, and she had no orgasm even when she's on top and we make love about 20 minutes (foreplay not count, i know the exact durations because it's about 5 songs on the TV before finaly we finish lol)

The thing is, she told me that she haven't got O yet..so I go down on her immediately and after about 5 or 8 minutes she finally got her O ...

The same thing happen in the morning, the morning sex, she got O after I go down on her ...

So the question is as the title said : Can woman live with a man who can only give orgasm from oral sex?

I mean, I started to like her, and i really like her 5 years old son ( jerry maguire thing hehehe ) , and I want this relationship build up..

and I dont mind if i had to go down on her every time we have sex... but can you women live with it ?

Lets see, 5 to 8 minutes for an orgasm, you may be able to get 3 to 6 in during a 30 minute session. Have you tried to really concentrate on her having multiple orgasms during foreplay? If you pay attention to her needs, it will be easier for her to fall in love with you.

**oxy-moron** · 07-16-2011 01:00 PM

Hi
It sounds like you have an honest and communicative lady and this is a huge advantage.
Try using your pubic bone to rub her pubic bone during sex. This will give her clitoral stimulation and this is what will be getting her over the edge with Oral.
Also dont be afraid to pause , pull out and rub the head of your penis against her clit for a while- then resume. There are no rules but you know what gets her over the edge so incorporate it into your love making.