Thread: strap on?

I know with lots of women this is taboo...but the other day I was playing around wrestling with my bf and he got extremely turned on when I was ontop of him. I got brave and did some very mild anal play with him and he was ecstatic. He said having me on him from behind was hot. He gets shy when I talk about it but he brings it up a lot. I get the feeling he wants more but will be embarrassed or think I will be opposed. Is it normal for straight men to like anal? And would I want to consider a strap on or something simpler like a dildo or some probes...im new to anything anal. Help!

There has been quite some discussion on this board about anal play. You may want to do a search on it as there is quite a bit of information.
To address your questions, yes, it's normal for a straight man to like anal. A man's prostate is very sensitive and can give them a great deal of pleasure.
And you may want to let your boyfriend decide how you stimulate him, as he may be uncomfortable with the visual of a strap-on. But in general, start small. Your fingers (put on gloves if long nails are an issue) should serve you well for quite a while.

Some men really enjoy this type of play, and as Little said, it has nothing to do with his being gay. In a lot of me it is also associated with being submissive, though not always. If you think this sort of thing sounds fun (a lot of women enjoy doing this), then it can be a great addition to your sex life.

You could surprise him with a strap-on one day. (start small - but he may have already tried this sort of play himself). I think it is very likely he would think it was extremely sexy. You could probably throw in a riding crop (again gently) and wearing leather, but of course YMMV.

If he enjoys this and wrestling, he (and you?) might like mild bondage as well.

In any of these games be sure that there is a safe word if someone isn't enjoying themselves anymore.

If you do anything anal, go very very slowly. Use lots and lots of lube. Be aware that he may like the concept, but not enjoy the real experience (fantasy and reality can be different). It can be messy, but most of the time it isn't.

have fun.

If he got really aroused while you were on top, I'm betting he has a submission fetish and likes the thought of you being in charge in the bedroom, at least some of the time. He'd probably have a hard time talking about it because it's taboo for men to be submissive anywhere, but especially in the bedroom with their SO. I don't really have much anal experience, but I'd suggest your fingers, like the above poster said, and anal beads. Those aren't shaped like a phallus, so he won't feel like you think he's gay if you bring them up. If he enjoys that, then you might want to mention a strapon or dildo, but he should be used to anal play before your bring something in that looks like a penis (imho).