I have an amazing relationship but I have never had an orgasm. I almost think this bothers my boyfriend more than it does me. I still enjoy what we do, so is that bad? We have tried a lot of different things since loosing our virginity together, but I won't let him go down on me. I like doing that for him, but I am not comfortable with it for myself. I know that a lot of woman can achieve orgasm that way. He really wants to but for some reason I am just really self conscious about that. I want to be more relaxed but just that one thing scares me so I always stop him when he tries.
We have completely talked about it. I love him and have fun with what we do. I have never been able to orgasm, even on my own. I just don't understand why I am so afraid of that and how I can fix it?

As long as you are enjoying the sensations, is all that really matters. A small percentage of women never orgasm. As you become more comfortable about yourself and learn about yourself, it may just happen when you are least expecting it! But, from experience, I can just about guarantee that if you keep thinking about it during lovemaking, it probably won't happen. Just focus on the sensations at the moment.

For many women, oral is the only way they orgasm. While I do not encourage you to do anything you are not comfortable with, I will encourage you to keep an open mind. Perhaps someday you will be more interested in receiving oral sex. (On a side note....the vagina is supposedly cleaner than the human mouth..). What is it that scares you about oral? Are you afraid he is going to be turned off? Or that maybe he is seeing more that he typically does? Or something else? Heck, maybe you really cannot put words to your fears, and I understand that too.

Have you ever tried pleasing yourself? Many women had their first orgasms while masturbating. As taboo as this subject sometimes is, it is a very natural way to discover your own sexuality.

So in short, enjoy the sensations, keep the idea of oral as a future possibility, and play with your self! Ha Ha. Just my two cents.

Some gals have hooded clitoris', and a small snip by a doctor can put that puppy in the line of action.

Many girls get off by getting control: on top. I can relate as a guy; on top is best for me too. Try up top. My wife tells me how to touch while riding; she always gets her jollies, sweating and exhausted.

BTW, my wife is Catholic, so she can't masturbate (stupid) , but I can masturbate her, go figure. She loves that.

Good luck; shame to waste that female orgasmic potential.

EVERY woman has a hooded clitoris! OMG! Are You Serious?! Every man has his foreskin when he is born and every woman has a ****ing clit hood. Jeez.

Hun, you JUST started having sex. I was having sex for 5 years before I had an orgasm during sex. Learn to get yourself off and then worry about someone else getting you off.

Don't be so shy during sex. Which is easier said than done for someone so new to sex. You'll learn to loosen up after you've been at it for a while and been with a few different people. Don't expect much right now. Time and experience is the only thing that will cure your inability to come.