Thread: Getting her there

Well, to be honest, I was not totally convinced either (we're long distance at the moment, so I'm hearing all this from her), but she seems very sure of this, and apparently there are definitely contractions, so I'm comfortable believing her.

Originally Posted by Mes T

I know exactly what she's talking about, have been there before myself. The "too much" feeling means she isn't being touched in the right place. Instead of stimulating her clitoris directly, try touching her slightly to either side of the clitoris. It's a very sensitive spot, and not all women like it to be stimulated directly.

What she needs to do is learn to give herself an orgasm. Maybe you can give this to her as homework. Honey, stay indoors this entire weekend, light some candles, clean your bedroom and make it comfortable, read a naughty book or think about your favorite fantasy, and explore yourself! Maybe one of you could purchase a vibrator for her, too, as that can often really help to speed things along.

Now the thing is that a lot of women really need to learn how to do this for themselves, first, without anyone else there. You might hear guys boasting that they gave their girlfriends their first orgasms blah blah blah... highly unlikely. Most women really need to master the art of masturbation first.

Think about it - how long have YOU been masturbating, years of practice, before you had sex for the first time? You know exactly what kind of feeling you are going for, how to make yourself feel good. But she doesn't know this about herself, and if she hasn't been able to do it for herself yet, there's almost no chance that someone else will be able to do it for her.

Best answer.... She needs to know herself bfr she can show u. What u and mes are describing happened to me and like 95% of my friends.

Good on you for being patient too! Alot of men expect so much from their female partners when themselves just aren't willing to do the same.

When she says it's getting too intense, slow down the strokes, whether it's your hand/fingers or tounge and move the stimulation off the clit directly so like circle around it. And then move over it again. Interchange this for a while then change it up again and do something else completely like sucking. Spit on it alot too, and basically make sure she knows you love doing anything down there.