Is This Normal?? Advice would be great.

**clocke82** · 07-26-2011 09:58 AM

Should I feel bad if I have more than one partner? I enjoy having sex all day everyday..it is rare when I am not in the mood. I can easily get turned on, by someone I am attracted too. Early morning from the guy the night before and someone new during lunch. I can be with the same person all the time, that is not the problem, it's when they are not available, I want to satisfy my needs and I don't really get off to masturbation so much. I want the body to body experience. Is my sex drive to high?? If so how can I control it, that way I can learn to be with just one person..but for now I have 3 sepearte males. I do majority of the time let them know if I am sexually active with others, because I don't want to keep secrets..and I do make them aware that it is unprotected. How do we decide one person will be enough? Is having an open relationship wrong? I think this is smething that I want to look into..majority of the time I am the other woman for my partners..I don't feel bad with what I am doing, I just question at times is this normal? For me to desire sex from so many different people?

**LanaBear** · 07-26-2011 10:31 AM

To each there own... You have a high sex drive and choose to handle it your own way.

The thing you mentioned that sticks out most for me is that you are sleeping around with multiple partners unprotected. So, if you are the "other woman" in their relationships, that is also having an impact on an innocent person. Not to mention, your own health. Do you honestly think that having unprotected sex with multiple men, sometimes in the same day, really the safest option for you?

**clocke82** · 07-26-2011 11:17 AM

Honestly, no. This is not the safest option for me. I feel that this is the reason I am openly talking about it amongst other women. I have been the other women on many occasions, and it does not bother me. I do mention to the men, that it is their call whether they want to continue or end everything before it happens. I do get checked, and the men I am with, there is a strong bond between the both of us..a connection, trust..at times physical attraction, or they just mentally captivate me. I don't really know how to explain it. I would like to learn how to control my urges, because when I do decide to get into a serious relationship..I do not want to stray..

**Seeker_Advice** · 07-26-2011 11:26 AM

You are playing "russian roulette" with your body and health, along with the bodies and health of others (without their knowledge).

Unprotected sex with multiple men.... Read that line 100 times....does it make any sense from a realistic and SAFETY perspective?

Like Lana said above..."to each thier own"...but when others are involved and they don't even know about it, then you are being selfish and unfair to them - IMO.

The mind is by far the most powerful muscle in the body...try using it once in a while and think about how you would feel (mentally) if you knew your man was cheating on you and exposing you...

One who has unprotected sex with their partner(s) shares that sex with all of that person's previous partners. Is that what you want? Really?

**stressed** · 07-26-2011 11:52 AM

Unprotected?

No, there's nothing "wrong" with what you're doing, it's your choice. But unprotected sex is dangerous and life threatening, not just to yourself but to others as well. And that's a lot worse than "wrong".

**ItsASecret** · 07-26-2011 12:11 PM

If you would like a perspective on how actually dangerous unprotected sex is with random men simply google images of the flesh eating bacteria, the 30 year long dormant viruses that you will never be able to rid of once you get them, the massive warts welts and pustules that come with infections, the amount of drugs you will need to rid of certain infections, the legal trouble you can easily get into if you catch something and not tell potential future partners. Not to mention the possible emotional and physical turmoil of multiple abortions (if this is your personal decision of course) and the emotional turmoil from men saying adios if they get you pregnant. The amount of money you would need, starting at about 10 grand, if you are to have an unexpected baby. All things mentioned can be greatly reduced, talking in the upwards of 95%+ reduction, by simply buying a $5 pack of condoms or getting a $3 prescription for birth control pills. Your lifestyle of wanting sex is not a problem, a lot of women are like that, but the safety risk is huge. At the very least buy some condoms from the pharmacy.