Dirty Talk during Sex??

**Laraa** · 07-30-2011 05:42 AM

Is this something that all men like?
My partner suggested for us to try this, but im not sure where to start to be honest.
Any tips or advice will be great.

**jns** · 07-30-2011 08:02 AM

There is almost nothing that all men like or all men dislike. I've never been with a woman that talked dirty during sex, so I have no idea if I would like it or not. I suppose if I was with a girl who talked dirty during sex and the sex was very good I would tie the reward with the dirty talk in a Pavlovian response. On the other hand, if the sex was bad with girl talking dirty, I would probably tie those two things together.

**kristalyn_04** · 07-30-2011 08:18 AM

Actually, I think the dirty talking works better before bedroom time. For example, text/email something naughty a few times before you meet up, or a little something whispered in their ear before the foreplay starts works well too. Get 'em all hot and excited, tease a little... then let the real naughty fun begin!

**chaya** · 07-30-2011 10:57 AM

Talking dirty would be completely out of character for me and I'm sure my husband wouldn't like it. I've only heard him use a bad word 2-3 times since I've known him.

**Texinator** · 07-30-2011 11:36 AM

It depends not only on the man but also the situation. Talking dirty in the wrong moment can be awkward or cheesy, but talking dirty in the right one can be a big turn on.

**Seeker_Advice** · 07-30-2011 12:02 PM

Ding! Tex hits another home run on this one. I agree.

**SoCoKen** · 07-30-2011 01:31 PM

Tex is right, awkward or cheesy dirty talk can be funny, but no one likes to be laughed at in bed. Unless, on purpose of course.

If the time and man are right for it, start with "it feels so good when you (insert whatever he is doing here)" or "do you like it when I (whatever you are doing here)?" Your description can be dirty X rated, or pg13. My advice would be to start at pg13 and work towards x. Once that feels comfortable for you to say, then you can start being a little more aggressive about it, like you are bossing him into doing it, i.e., "oh yes, keep (insert dirty rendition of what he is doing here)" or, "Im going to (in the blank). From there, the sky is the limit all the way up to whatever you both are comfortable with. I would make this transition over weeks, not in one session. Too much too soon might be out of character, and you can gauge his reaction as you test the waters. If he says, "oh yeah, you like it when I (fill in the blank)?" It might be game on. If he doesnt really respond, dont bring it up afterward on the first try. Let him think about it till the next time. You might catch him off guard the first time, but he should be ready for it by the next. If the next time he still doesnt react, then talk to him about it and see how he feels.

**Laraa** · 07-30-2011 03:05 PM

Thanks for all your comments so far..I think i'll give it a go when i feel its right and see how we get on.

**Taos** · 07-31-2011 08:27 PM

Laraa,

I have been with a few woman who loved nasty talk. One of my old girlfriends with whom I fell in love, loved nasty talk, and she was good at it. She loved it when I told her what I was going to do to her.

I see no harm in nasty talk. As long as it's not offensive, which should never be the case, it usually turns women on.

Good Luck,

Taos